EVERYONE is good at Something!! YOUR life and legacy depends on YOU.

[TrustYourSoul]

Do Not Waste Your Skills and Talents! Use them somehow to improve YOUR little corner of this World! Absolutely NOTHING gets resolved or fixed by laying in bed and staring at the ceiling, or sitting in a chair and staring at the wall! Get Up!! Wash your face, brush your teeth, put on regular clothes, and Do Something. Nobody else can help (or Will help) if people won't try to help themselves. If you walk and trip, then fall down, do you just lay there? No. You Don't. Unless you broke a bone, you get up.

Everyone who is hurting, please..... rise up, EVERY DAY, and yell out loud at The Devil that you're Not Going To Take His CRAP Anymore!!! He will leave you alone because You Are Not "Weak"!!! If you were strong enough to get onto this wonderful support site, then You Are Not Weak, and you already took a Big Leap!! Keep doing that!!

[Roxylox]

Right, of course, but can feel impossible to do when in a bad place

[TrustYourSoul]

It is Not "impossible". If your home was on fire, you would get up. You have to "Fight" mentally for your life to improve. I have overcome Much in my life, doing what I posted. No excuses.

[Roxylox in reply to TrustYourSoul]

I am fairly good at fighting, as you seem to be, l am an optimist. I was speaking more for those who aren't.Many who post on here may need gentler advice.

I am a person who will generally accept a good proverbial kick to get me going.

I'm saying ,l like your beliefs and motivations, but still think they may not suit everyone

[TrustYourSoul]

Agree to some extent, but I see many "gentle" approaches/responses, and the recipients just won't "own" anything.

There are times when Self "Tough Love", and/or firmer advice may be much more helpful than saying, "I'm so sorry that your life sucks. Things will get better." There is no action item for the person whose life sucks with only empathetic words. They need ideas to "own", and make their lives un-suckier. There is No Magic Wand. If there was, I would own one and travel the World, eliminating suffering and hardships for all people and all animals.

Words of Wisdom

[Daveacr1959]

Great post! Let’s all try our best, and when we check out of this world. They can say about us.. he went out swinging!!

[Shnookie]

This is Shnookie. I know your heart is in the right place, but your approach right now to someone like me who is under extreme stress is a little overbearing. When I wake up feeling like hell because I have a migraine headache, I would rather see one of your precious animal cuddles post which puts a smile 😊 on my face rather than talk from the devil. Also not everyone related to the devil in the way U have described it. I have given support to many people on this site BUT now rarely answer things because it is too much for me to handle. If someone vents on this site, it might help them release their stress and then go on to have a productive day.

[TrustYourSoul]

If only what you said was true.....

"If someone vents on this site, it might help them release their stress and then go on to have a productive day."

SO many on this site openly ask for true help. They want magic answers. My cute animal pictures might give some a smile for a few seconds, which is valuable, but then the smile turns to a frown again, and people keep crying out for help. They are not being "productive" from Many of the posts I read. Some of the same people, over and over, keep asking for something...anything... anyone to help, in desperate language. It is VERY sad for me when someone continues to plead.

I have been through SO much in my life (some of it's in my profile), and feel a little bit better qualified/equipped to offer different approaches/solutions/ perspectives. It is solely up to each of us to "own" our lives and our actions. I believe that many come to this site, hoping that a stranger might have something to say that will reach them and help them achieve lasting positive progress. What I have offered is my life experience and coping skills. I still have my days or moments, but I have learned how best to chase them away. I am grateful for Xanax when I need it. I am a Survivor.

So yes, I make reference to The Devil, and yelling at him to leave me alone. That is my perspective, and one of the greatest coping skills for Me. A well-known Pastor of a church taught me this. He was right. Others don't have to agree, but nobody should be scolded for sharing their perspective or ideas.

The cute animal pictures serve a purpose too, if only for a few seconds.🐴

[Shnookie in reply to TrustYourSoul]

U need to realize that not everyone on this site is of the Christian faith. I’m Jewish and there R people of other faiths on this site as well. I have also gone thru a lot in my life including being the sole caregiver to my mother for 2 years when she had stage 4 pancreatic cancer until her death in 2016. As is in mental health, we try to take things one day at a time. And whennI saw one of the cute animal pictures, it could make my day happy and to have a happy day is important to me. I come from a family of survivors. As I have written b4 my father was a Jewish child Holocaust survivor and my poor granny had survivor’s guilt which impacted me as well.

[mauv]

You have your perspective, which is pull yourself up by your boot strap and move. Everyone is entitled to their own perpective. I have tried everything from psychologist, meds,trans dural therapy, shock therapy and now on meds and therapy I don’t stay in bed as I k ow that makes the depression worse. I have one friend I can share with and this site too. My husband has never supported me. I have a dog I walk around around my 1 acre. Also a cat I can cuddle with. Pets give unconditional. I go to church and Alanon.Have simple meals and lite housework. I have major deep depression. I can’t control or.cure this disease. All I. can do is be gentle with myself help others and perservere.