Hi everyone,
I have dealt with social anxiety since elementary school, and it got a little better before COVID hit. To explain, I get shaky, extreme stomach pain, headaches, dizziness, become mute(even if I want to speak), stutter, lose my thoughts, the whole package in large social situations. However, I became more confident to become a better version of myself my first year and pushed through the discomfort. After all, no one knew who I was and I could become anyone I wanted to be. Therefore, I forced myself to raise my hand, took leadership roles in small groups, and even tried making new friends independently. However, COVID hit, and aspects of my depression and general anxiety worsened. I became a mess, life became meaningless, and nothing I did made it better. Something about staying with the worst of my thoughts without distractions erased my progress. Currently, my social anxiety is back to what it was, if not worse. I can't even eat the day of a presentation, or else I get sick.
Now, I am a month into my second semester as a Junior and have run into a predicament. One of my professors constantly reminds the class that she values discussion and often forces the quiet students to speak in class- one of them being me. Today, she sent out an email stating that she is concerned about my participation grade. We only get four participation grades in total, so they count more than in other classes. Furthermore, my first participation grade in this class is a 70! It is not that I don't try to speak; I force myself to talk when there's an awkward silence in small groups, but what matters to the professor is that I speak in front of the whole class more often. I have thought about emailing her back about my dilemma. Still, I know that she values large class discussions, and I will not get a free pass(not that I am looking for a pass, but I want to be left alone because her constant reminders make me feel like a failure when I'm struggling).
I don't know what to do, and I feel so pathetic. Everyone else in this class can speak so intelligently and I know the moment I open my mouth, an unintelligible mess will come out.
Edit: I have tried going to therapy, but it didn't really help my symptoms.