Family Drama...

[SurvivingEveryday]

I have three adult siblings who are nothing but literal drama. They quarrel, fight, and are just not decent people. Our elderly parents live with me and my spouse (a fact in itself that has caused drama within the sibling group).

They seem to always attack me for silly things that they perceive I do. Like, my sister thinks my spouse and I are on the verge of bankruptcy and tells my parents, who then worry. My two brothers accuse me of things that I do not do, and also tell my parents.

The reason they live with me is because everyone else lives out of state. I don't want a relationship with my siblings and have told both them and my parents. My parents being here is so difficult because they bring my siblings up and talk about them a lot. Plus, they have a right to love their children. I do not hinder, nor ban, them from having a relationship. I encourage it. But it is becoming more and more difficult and I'm not sure what to do.

This situation sucks, and I'm constantly retraumatized and triggered.

[augustnow]

Even the most persistent flies buzz off someday so there's a pretty high chance that your siblings will too. There's always that right? And in the meantime, you can keep focusing on yourself, find ways of undercutting their attempts at making you miserable by doing constructive things that make you happy or being around people who understand your discomfort with your siblings better than your parents do- so at least your boundaries and concerns will be respected more often. Everyone deserves to feel at peace in their home, you included <3

[SurvivingEveryday in reply to augustnow]

Thank you so much. I like your fly analogy, also. I sure hope this resolves soon.