Trust.

[gerrerd]

Trust in the process, you can get there !

[Roxylox]

A very appropriate quote for me at thd moment - worky issues

[STEM_Dad in reply to Roxylox]

Same here...

(I'm recovering from recent divorce; new to co-parenting as a now-single dad. Only recently restored confidence in myself in my career, after previous job struggles nearly destroyed all my confidence.)

I'll be reminding myself of this, and I'll pass it along:

"Trust yourself, you've survived a lot and you'll survive whatever is coming." ~Robert Tew

[Roxylox in reply to STEM_Dad]

So many of us suffer in workplaces, but I'm getting more resilient.

I'm glad you have your confidence back.

[Blue_81 in reply to Roxylox]

At work is where all my anxiety started.

[STEM_Dad in reply to Blue_81]

I've dealt with anxiety repeatedly in my life, now that I recognize it for what it is. The earliest I can recall was back in 6th grade, after moving to a new place: I had a hard time making friends, struggled in school for the first time, and became self conscious of my appearance because I started to be attracted to girls. It gradually increased through 8th grade and decreased through 12th grade.

Then, anxiety ramped up due to struggles in college and work.

But the worst was when I got a work director who screwed me out of a raise I was due and wound up with a narcissistic, incompetent manager for over 3 years. Most of that time, I was actively seeking a job change, and learned through the grapevine they the director was acting against me getting rehired into my previous job.

I finally got that type of job again, but at a different employer, with a good & edifying boss, lots of positive feedback, a friend for by teammate, and pay raises I didn't expect.

[Blue_81 in reply to STEM_Dad]

I have always been a nervous individual, checking everything two or three times since I can remember. Initially I thought I was being responsible and that was a good thing. Now I know it was my anxiety being manifested. At work it just went full blown when we had a miscommunication with a lead. Going to work became unbearable and I started panicking. After a few months I made amends if there was any wrong doing on my behalf and I moved to another department. Things got better for a year or two but then I started suffering from health issues. So my anxiety came back stronger.

[Roxylox in reply to Blue_81]

Thay is tragic, tbey can really bring you down

[Roxylox in reply to Blue_81]

Are you still working now?

[Blue_81 in reply to Roxylox]

Still working at the same place but had to move from department. I still face my anxiety every day which has not gone away, unfortunately. Now I have health issues that im dealing with every day as well. Life has become very heavy to deal with.

[Roxylox in reply to Blue_81]

So sorry to hear that, kerp posting maybe. I find it helps.

[Blue_81 in reply to Roxylox]

Yes posting does help alot. To be honest not sure how long I will be able to work. Anxiety and my health issues is making it harder to be at work. Been out sick more days and when I work its just hard to get through the day. Will love to get my health back, i need to work since im the breadwinner. Hope everything gets better at your work. Its horrible to go work and be there for 8hrs and not enjoy it.

[Roxylox in reply to Blue_81]

I'm lucky in that my work hours are short, that helps.If you had to give up, would you get a disability payment?

[Blue_81 in reply to Roxylox]

Not sure to be honest but I need to start looking into it. My severe stomach pain along with anxiety makes it so hard just to do about anything. I want to keep working and be normal but my life seems to be pointing to getting disability and probably moving to my mom’s house.

[STEM_Dad in reply to Blue_81]

When my anxiety got really bad, I finally used a work benefit to go see a counselor. After several weeks of counseling, I also talked to my doctor, who put me on an anti anxiety medication for about 3 months, until we both agreed that I didn't need it anymore. Since I got my ADHD diagnosis at the same time, after the first month on the SSRI to stabilize me (and continuing the counseling), I also started on my ADHD meds.

I'm glad I got the help I needed. I just wish I'd been open to getting the help sooner.

[gerrerd in reply to Blue_81]

Potentials unlimited. Online get a download. Try self confidence one.

[gerrerd in reply to Blue_81]

I had the same problems, working on myself helped me through it .

[gerrerd in reply to Roxylox]

It's not what happens to us it's how we react to it, x

[b1b1b1]

Well, maybe, but not always, especially with covid about.

[gerrerd in reply to b1b1b1]

It's about our reaction not what is about. There is never a perfect time to change, only now.

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I hope everyone gets through their troubles prayers

[Bba6]

Gerrerd,

Thank you. I’m afraid I’ve got too old to be able to trust in myself. My mind and body are betraying me due to age and stress. I never dreamed I would end up this way, but I did want to thank you for your post. As a matter of fact, thank you for so many of your posts that may not get responded to but mean so much

[gerrerd in reply to Bba6]

Thanks, your never too old ♥️

[loveletters]

This is so true. When I was so depressed, I never thought I would be myself again. but I did get there. I am very religious and prayed so much, and one day it just happened. I prayed as if my prayer was already answered. Never give up.