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I have been living bedridden and in isolation from a Valium prescription given to me by a psychiatrist for ptsd and gad. I trusted him not knowing that three years later my life would be in utter ruin and I would be living each day for the last year in unimaginable pain and loneliness.

I joined this place in the hopes of finding a bit of hope and human connection as I am unable to even leave my place of residence due to the myriad of symptoms.

I am working with another psychiatrist and have sought out every outlet under the sun to get better so I am not really seeking any medical advice just genuine human connection.

Nice to meet all of you :)

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Relatable. So caughed up, tingled by anxiety and it's sympthoms that it leads to desperation. I know this feeling. Litterary every day. And i can say do valiums help at all? I can take them like candy and still get hours of anxiety attacks and another hours of anxiety attacks. It's like i'm living in permanent anxiety attack tho 🤔😅. Anyway hi, you're not alone

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Liminalj in reply to Against_the_current

hi, i’m sorry you are feeling similar, it’s the worst. i have built up tolerance to them from taking everyday so now they made my anxiety 10x worse and i get auditory hallucinations and feel like i’m dying. All of my friends have left me behind and I miss them so much. Do you have any friends or family to connect with and relate to your feelings? What are you studying in grad school? I applied to PhD programs for next year but they say that it will take years for me to recover because of the benzos :/

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Against_the_current in reply to Liminalj

I litterary have nobody in real life. No friends. Toxic family. I'm on benzos too. I'm a psychology bachelor but i have completely no idea what is going on with my classes

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Liminalj in reply to Against_the_current

man that sucks. Does it help that you’re not alone? I just had my 40th birthday on christmas so at least you are younger? I’m trying to cheer you up and not very good at it lol

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Against_the_current in reply to Liminalj

Irl i'm alone, the only other humans i see are mom and sis with whom i have issues too. I'm probably not responding right, i'm just having an anxiety attack since hours and even my benzo didn't help

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Liminalj in reply to Against_the_current

i’m so sorry, i’m having a tough day too. Hang in there you are not alone.

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Agora1

Welcome Liminalj to this amazing safe and caring support forum.Your post struck a chord with me because I too had been left on Xanax

for 30 years but got off it safely with the help of my psychiatrist who

specializes in Benzo Withdrawing.

I was on a very small dose once a day but the number of years I was on

it made me dependent. It was a slow weaning process but so worth the

effort. My doctor used the Dr. Heather Ashton Method of Withdrawing.

A doctor from England who found a way to cautiously get patients off benzos

and give them their lives back. (at least for me it did)

Liminalj you are definitely in the right place in getting the support and

understanding you need, I'm happy you are here with us. We care :) xx

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Liminalj

thanks for reaching out and responding. I am using the Ashton method and it isn’t working because it was already on Valium. We are thinking of trying to taper using another Benzo because for some reason my brain takes months to recover from even the tiniest cut of Valium. I’m so glad to hear you are benzo free, right now it feels like my life will never be the same but your kind words are greatly appreciated. Happy I found this community :)

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Agora1 in reply to Liminalj

me too... :) xx

Welcome to this site, You will hopefully get the support you need.You seem to be with a new Therapist so He will hopefully give you good advice and help you move on given time,

Over the years from my teens, I am now seventy one I have managed to withdraw from many different types of these medications. I take Citalopram and this medication has been reduced because of my age, Withdrawal has not been too bad and now I take minimal dose. I will most probably be of the medication in the next week or to.

There are ways of getting of your medication, you will need to be strong on top of the assistance of your Therapist. Be brave and determined remembering even with assistance it will be you who will be succesful with your own positive actions

BOB

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Liminalj

thanks for your words and support :)

Isn't valium an older drug??? They've come up with newer, and I think somewhat safer drugs than that. I wouldn't take Valium. Another older drug I've been on that I want nothing to do with anymore is Haldol. There might not be an exact cure for depression, but there are better drugs out there than there were 20 or 30 years ago. Don't be afraid to speak up to your psychiatrist and ask questions. And welcome to the site!!!!

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This is very important. Seems like we now have to do our own research to see if there are better newer alternatives. My doctor has be on Amytriptyline. An ER doctor told me this is an old drug with more serious side effects and they don't prescribe it anymore. I still haven't talked to my doc about it but I really should.

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Some psychiatrists seem to think their God. I don't really like too many of them .

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Blue_81

Hello Liminalj,

Welcome to the site. I really like this community because everyone supports each other specially when going through a rough time. Unfortunately, friends seem to drift away when one becomes sick. Its hard for them to understand us what we are going through. Our social life diminishes as well because of our poor health takes away our energy. I feel we cant properly express the pain we are going through.

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Liminalj

Could not have said it better myself. Thanks for the comment :)

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Sam1109

Man, that sounds horrible. But you have to see it through. In time things often do get better, even when it first seemed impossible. Valium can do that to someone? I had no idea. Good to know for sure. Human connection is so important. We're here for you. But do let your friends know how you feel about them not keeping in touch. Maybe they will realize that they did it without wanting to.

The great thing is it seems you have done a lot in your life. I'm few years older than you and I have not travelled the world or became an expert in anything. No real job even. Just have no interest in anything to study and learn it enough to get there in life. I hope you can manage your pain better and can get your friends back or make new friends. It's hard to keep contact with friends when your life becomes uneventful. So try to not talk about your illness when talking to people. I know this is a fact from own experience. When my anxiety was bad and I had no interest in anything else my friends drifted away since they didn't know how to talk to me. I bet everyone who gets seriously ill experiences this sooner or later. Stay strong my friend!

I can’t relate as I have never been on Valium and when I was on Xanax I never got addicted. I noticed with Xanax you build up a tolerance soooo quick so I got off that.

I don’t have a lot of friends because of my anxiety and shyness and the friends I do have I never see(my fault because of my anxiety). I can’t say I really talk to them as they only like to text and I old school and would rather talk on the phone.

I have 2 much older brothers and I get along with then but having a 15 year age gap made it that we’re just not super close. I had my mom and she was my everything but died over 8 years ago and I do feel so alone after losing her.

I hope you’re new Dr. Can help you. I play video games to help with my anxiety. I used to play World of Warcraft A LOT as it took my mind off things plus I was in a guild (nerd alert 😂) got human interaction that way(we could talk to each other). Right now I play Diablo 2 resurrected as Diablo 2 was one of the first online games I played that helped me immensely with my anxiety.

Also, just take things one day at a time. Don’t think about how long it will take, otherwise it’ll seem impossible. Instead focus on small victories. Get excited over the smallest amount you go down in dosage and remember it’s PROGRESS, no matter how small it might seem.

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Midori

Welcome to the site!

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Hollick

HI Liminalj, I'm so sorry tho hear you have suffered this hardship..please don't give up, tomorrow is a new day..wishing you well in prayers n thoughts..God bless.

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Daveacr1959

Try the Wim Hof guided breathing exercises free on you tube 3 times daily. Then try a 5 minute cold shower 2 times daily.

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lovemydoggy

Welcome. It's not easy, but things can change. Just remember you're not alone. The worst year of my life was 2005 and I was in constant anxiety. Every waking moment. I was on a pretty big dose of klonopin, but it didn't make a dent. I finally got relief from Effexor. I know we're all different, but I really thought my life was never going to get better. It did. Knowing you aren't alone can make a big difference. Keep reaching out.

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XoxoFaith

Welcome please don’t loose hope I suffer everyday too with anxiety and depression and so many symptoms and there’s no other choice but to keep pushing through hope you feel better soon Iam here for anything

Hi Liminalj. I saw on your home page that you've lived as a professional musician. You weren't clear if you were a classical guy or played clubs, but I bring it up because I know that life. When your lifestyle has drug use as a given, it's harder to get out of the mindset.

I went through it too. A hell I don't want to recall and can't forget. Months to make the smallest reduction. Years off, to find the grasping tentacles on me again when I am weakest.

I hope you find some of the human connection here you are seeking.

Since you're new, you may not realize you can lock your post to protect us from searches outside our little forum. You'll get more replies that way.

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The nicest people are here🙂

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