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What is your best feature? And why.

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My anxieties came back a little today. So I thought we could focus on another positive. (I'm sorry, but I don't care who you are, we are all made beautiful and have at least one feature to be proud of.)

I use to have big chubby cheeks as a kid, so big that a boy in high school referred to me as the girl with chubby cheeks. When the baby fat finally melted away from those cheeks in college, they turned out to be the high cheekbones most models have. I also love the birthmark on my leg because it looks like an alien face, and I was fascinated by aliens as a kid.

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I have a bit of a stutter at times. After going on a week intensive course it's a lot better than it was. Now attitude is i don't get stressed about it and wouldn't change anything. Its part of me!!

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Hi it’s Shnookie. I stuttered as a kid. When I was about 9 I went to a speech pathologist. My mom meaning well in her own way wanted me to keep this secret because she didn’t want people to make fun of me. I know she meant well but I found this to be burdensome. However one day when I was in class, my teacher said to me in front of other kids that my mouth sounded like it was full of marbles. I was mortified and a shy kid as well. I told my mom what happened and she went to school the next day to speak to the teacher. I was lucky that I had an advocate then. As I grew up I came into my own and many a Time was outspoken. I give U props and kudos for going to the course and for accepting your stuttering as part of who U R. U can always personally message me. I’m here 4 U Hugs 🤗 S

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Hi Shnookie. Can't believe how insensitive your teacher was. How awful for you!! Like a lot of stutters I used to struggle saying my name( which I don't now, but struggle a bit saying words begining with B). Anyway, at school I used to hate it when it was time for the register as you had to say your name then. Nowadays, I am not embarrassed about my stutter(not as much). The intensive 8 days course I did back in 2009 was amazing. Thanks for your kind words. U can always message me too. Take care😀

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primrose81 in reply toShnookie

Hi Shnookie - just to say like you I was humiliated in front of the whole class - I had to read out loud and was so nervous that I read too fast, stuttered and made loads of mistakes. This teacher told me my reading was so bad I would have to go back to my ABC and relearn it! I was mortified and still remember it to this day….but I went on to become a teacher and vowed never ever to sap a child’s confidence. Don’t know what my favourite feature about myself is - I am 69 and do not enjoy looking at myself in mirrors!

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Shnookie in reply toprimrose81

Kudos to U 4 becoming a caring and compassionate teacher. So sorry 😐 that your teacher was such a piece of s**t. I was so lucky that I had my mom who was in essence my best friend to

be my advocate. If You would like, U

Can personally message me.

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Dolphin14

I also have high cheek bones. A lot of women pay big bucks to get these:) We are natural beauties. I have nice shiny hair.

As a 🐬 I have a fabulous fin. I know I tend to brag about it,

Haha

❤️🐬

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I have noticed those fabulous fins many times, Dolphin, you are so fortunate. 🐬

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Dolphin14 in reply to

Thank you so much snowdaze. Don't hate me because I'm beautiful..... remember that old shampoo commercial??

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Imaaan in reply toDolphin14

Loool....what commercial was that?

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Dolphin14 in reply toImaaan

It was some kind of shampoo. The woman flipped her gorgeous hair around and thats what she would say

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Imaaan in reply toDolphin14

Keep bragging about yo fierce ' n' fabulous fin ;) I'm here for it

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Dolphin14 in reply toImaaan

🐬.... it is quite special isn't it hahaha

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Imaaan in reply toDolphin14

Its everyyyyyyythaaaaaaaaaaang and a bag of sardines....no sireee to chips

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Dolphin14 in reply toImaaan

Did you mention sardines? I'm all over it 🐬

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Imaaan in reply toDolphin14

You and me both.

I don't really have anything that I consider a special feature. I do have the knack of wanting to help.other people when needed. So no special feature.

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Sounds pretty special to me. 😉

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Thank you ❤

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Dolphin14 in reply to

Very special

❤️🐬

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Thank you ❤

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LadyZen in reply to

I don't believe you because on here you enjoy laughing with others and that's pretty special.

in reply toLadyZen

Thank you ❤. You all have made me feel special. I appreciate that. Kind of wish we all were neighbors.🌹

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Zara0123 in reply to

That's a personality feature. It's great You can't go wrong there. Better then a beauty feature anytime 😊

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Thank you ❤

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Zara0123 in reply to

We are better then neighbours 🏡|🏘The amount of time we spend on here chatting it feels like we're all sharing a house together. We probably spend more time on here chatting to each other then we do with our family members 🤭

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LadyZen in reply toZara0123

We're like a virtual happy hippy commune.

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Zara0123 in reply toLadyZen

We are for sure 💕

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Love this!! I feel like we're having coffee, tea or in my case milk together...

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mrmonk

No feature, just lots of (metaphoric) bugs. 😼

However, I was the Features Editor of my high school newspaper in my junior year and I was pretty good at it...maybe, that was my best feature...

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I am sure you have many more, mrmonk. 🙂

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LadyZen in reply tomrmonk

I agree with MrMonk.

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Isinatra

Lol I managed to keep the ravages of the sun off my face. I used to wear a lot of face makeup. So I guess my best feature would be my facial skin. My forehead is as smooth as a baby’s butt. But my butt isn’t.😵‍💫

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You are a lovely person on the inside, from what I can tell by your posts, Isinatra. 🌥 Good sun practice is something I do, too. I am allergic to all sunscreens and most facial creams, so I have plenty of sun hats, long sleeved cotton/linen shirts and pants, etc.

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Isinatra in reply to

Thank you, snowdaze. You are lovely as well. All that gear to wear just to go outside. I hope the weather where you live is finally turning cooler and you don’t live in Florida. 😉🪶

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Yes, the weather is starting to become Fall-like, I couldn't be happier...until it finally snows! ❄️ I used to live in the Gainesville/Ocala area, so I know of the hot weather you speak of. ☀️

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Isinatra in reply to

Oh! Hello fellow ex Southerner! 👋

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🌴Hello!

My favorite way to pass the time was to get in the car and drive through horse country. Marion County will always have a place in my heart. Oh, getting ice-cream from the cafe in Micanopy was also a favorite way to spend some time.

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Isinatra in reply to

Chipley ring a bell? Remote, but horsey.

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I had to google Chipley. No, unfortunately, I have never been there. Once this pandemic and it's restrictions ease up, I will be back in Florida to see friends. Chipley would be a nice place for a stop-over. Here in Canada, in my region, horse farms are not the norm. In my next life I want to be a horse trainer, in Florida, lol!

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Isinatra in reply to

Canada! Come on down!

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Butterflyfish-2021 in reply toIsinatra

I live for a Sunny day it’s makes me feel so alive . Unfortunately where am at it’s starting to get cold and gloomy 🙁

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Isinatra in reply toButterflyfish-2021

There’s always room for one more in the Sunshine State. 😂( the name should be changed to the Semi Sunshine State. We’ll work it out though.)

in reply toIsinatra

I'd love to go there and stay there. Been there several times I loved it.🙂

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Dolphin14 in reply toIsinatra

A smooth butt is overrated :) Great job on the skin care

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Isinatra in reply toDolphin14

Lol Over rated, eh? Should we take a poll on that? Do I hear a yay or do I hear a nay? 😂

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Dolphin14 in reply toIsinatra

Haha.... let's remember it's weekend with Charlize. When I see her pictures I feel like a supermodel. I'm sure her butt isn't smooth.

Let's think about that for a minute hahaha

❤️🐬

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Isinatra in reply toDolphin14

😂😂I’m thinking, I’m thinking…😂😂

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Perhaps we should try not to think too much about Charlize, lol! I am sure she is very kind-hearted, other wise Sillysauage wouldn't speak so highly of her.

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🤔

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Dolphin14 in reply to

Ok you are right. It was very superficial of me to pass judgement. Im glad they found each other.

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Zara0123 in reply to

Is she real 🤔 if so we should be kind. To Charlize and SS 😊

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Absolutely over rated, so a yay from me. ☺️

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Isinatra in reply to

Yay it is!

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Zara0123 in reply toIsinatra

Your personality is great Isinatra. Your so easy to get on with. Kind and caring. An excellent listener. Just to have one friend like you is a blessing. I guess I'm lucky to have a few on HU.

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Isinatra in reply toZara0123

💖

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Imaaan in reply toIsinatra

Undies cover up all sorts of stuff ;)

I do hope that your smooth like butter baby skin makes a guest appearance on your profile pic :)

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Isinatra in reply toImaaan

😂There’s nothing between me and my Calvin Klein leggings. I got that “covered”.Imaaan……….you first and more than two minutes.😁

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Imaaan in reply toIsinatra

2 minutes was more than your flat out NO...lol...so 'gurl bye' as the streets say 😜

U took me all the way back the 90s with CK ;)

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Isinatra in reply toImaaan

😂

My best physical feature, the one I fuss with the most, is my hair. It is wavy and wurly and almost mid-back length. I like to wear it up and have taught myself some really pretty updo styles, Youtube has a great selection of tutorials. Family members always ask me for my advice when it comes to "hair stuff."

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Your hair sounds wonderful. Pssst…..I need some advice. Got a minute?😉

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Smooth butt and wavy hair.... Got my attention...😁😁😁

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Isinatra in reply to

😂As Joan Rivers would say “Go to bed!”! 😂

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It's 8 a.m.!!

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Isinatra in reply to

😂Got me there!

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But it sounds good tho

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Isinatra in reply to

Nap time for you. 😂

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Been up since 2

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Isinatra in reply to

I rest my case.

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"Rest"?

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And the leggings!!!💞

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Imaaan in reply to

U got that good hair dont care vibe ;)

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Beholy

We are all God's child

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Redfox9

You know you’re screwed when you can’t think of anything other than failures and low self esteem. Sorry for commenting something negative on such a positive post, but after a brief thought really can’t think anything good about me. :( ;-;

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Oh but this is not the case, Redfox9. I have just browsed your profile page and it seems to me that many of your posts offer up helpful quotes, tips on good books to read and much support to the members here.

This is a fine quality, one that is appreciated and needed on this forum. 🌿

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Thanks a lot, sometimes we have a filter in our mind which filter out positives and only allow negative things to pass. Your comment made my day. Best wishes from my side. :)

in reply toRedfox9

You are welcome, Redfox9. I know this filter you speak of, it needs and wants to be cleaned each day. 🌸

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Isinatra in reply toRedfox9

I see you’re thoughtful, kind..🪶

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Redfox9 in reply toIsinatra

Thanks a lottt Isinatra. You are very kind. Hopefully everything is fine for you :)

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Isinatra in reply toRedfox9

Things are good enough, my friend. Good enough.

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LadyZen in reply toRedfox9

I agree with snowdaze on this one.

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Zara0123 in reply toRedfox9

Think about a compliment someone has made about you. Everyone has one good feature about them.

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Hb2003

Hmm 🤔 my favorite feature has to be my eyes . They have a beautiful glow to them and I like that 😄

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LadyZen in reply toHb2003

I bet the glow is lovely with the glittery scarf you mentioned that you wear in another post.

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Hb2003 in reply toLadyZen

aww thank you 🙏 I really appreciate it

in reply toHb2003

Eye have seen some beautiful eyes. I have blue and everyone goes wild about them and not sure why because I've seen some awesome green, brown, hazel colored ones. When the sun hits the eyes to make them sparkle I am in awe at all the colors. 👀

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Hb2003 in reply to

Same 😄

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❤.

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Imaaan in reply toHb2003

A lil twinkle and a lil spark

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Hb2003 in reply toImaaan

Yes exactly ☺️

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Mrspjsmom

Not feeling so great today but I'll say my hair. Will look better after a cut and color. At 57 gravity, gray hair and wrinkles take over 🤣

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Isinatra in reply toMrspjsmom

Nothing like a visit to the beauty parlor to boost the spirits. 👍🏼

in reply toMrspjsmom

I bet you're are a hot 57.🔥🔥🔥🔥

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Imaaan

Bizarre to say out loud..lol.. Here goes;

Physically, all of me. From my skin to my skeleton 💀

^^^^ Conceited, no! Grateful for my blessings from God, yes!

Personality wise: luv making others feel good. Complimenting others/strangers in real life or online is my specialty ;)

^ Happy and more importantly thankful to see I'm not alone in that department from the replies above to each other :)

Hope you get some relief from your anxiety, LadyZen.

Sounds like a lovely woman. Don't forget your self-confidence.🌻

The teeth, the breast and being the beast Chuck Norris. You've gotta be a "10".

My dreads 🇯🇲

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Sillysausage234

Bum cheeks

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Dolphin14 in reply toSillysausage234

👙I bet:)

❤️🐬

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Sillysausage234 in reply toDolphin14

Holiday pics

Me and charlize
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Dolphin14 in reply toSillysausage234

Oh ya you are right!! Great cheeks on both of you. Is that your Xmas card you are sending out? Can I get one?

❤️🐬

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Sillysausage234 in reply toDolphin14

Thanks….yes that’s a xmas calendar Ille send you one to ocean view u.s.a

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Dolphin14 in reply toSillysausage234

It's so beautiful.... so Hallmark Movie Channel. Are you running to or from the hot tub? Will you have a snow ball fight and make snow angels?

Yes please Ocean USA is a ziplock bag please:)

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Sillysausage234 in reply toDolphin14

We’re playing catch me ……I won 😄…….thanks….will do

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Dolphin14 in reply toSillysausage234

That melts my heart. I'm so happy for you.

Enjoy your weekend with Charlize. She's lucky to have you.

❤️🐬

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Sillysausage234 in reply toDolphin14

Thanks …..you too …have a fabulous weekend doing nice dolphin things

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Dolphin14 in reply toSillysausage234

Thank you I will

in reply toSillysausage234

Oh my! 👀

I love snow! I tend to dress in layers, though. 😄

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Butterflyfish-2021 in reply toSillysausage234

😂😂😂

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LadyZen in reply toSillysausage234

Again, is this allowed on HealthUnlocked?

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Sillysausage234 in reply toLadyZen

Yes it’s fine ….it’s just tongue in cheek they said it’s ok

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LadyZen in reply toSillysausage234

Okay, just checking. It's the chihuahua complex in me that makes me ask.

in reply toSillysausage234

There is even a photo that proves this to be true. ☺️

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Sillysausage234 in reply to

I thought youde like the scenery 😄❄️

in reply toSillysausage234

Very much so. ❄️

Just a tip, if you do make snow angels....lay on your backs 😉

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Sillysausage234 in reply to

I’ve got coco butter for the chill blaines

in reply toSillysausage234

"Chill blaines?" Explain, please. 😄

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youtu.be/b06cjc5dG74

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Oh, okay, we call them hives here in Canada. It is a type of hive that is caused by an allergic reaction to the cold. This is why I dress in layers! (hint hint 😄)

Does coco butter stop the itching??? 🤔😄

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Sillysausage234 in reply to

No ….I just like the smell 😄…..Canada looks a great fresh air place do you sound french

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The Province of Quebec has the largest French speaking population, many of whom speak English, also. I live in the Province of Ontario, where English is the main language. I speak no french at all, although I can read it pretty well. I have family in Quebec and they are all bilingual. Beautiful country if I do say so myself. 🇨🇦

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Sillysausage234 in reply to

I love timber kings 😄

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Great show, for sure. I really like their smaller sized cabins.

Timber Kings
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youtu.be/26tiUKpQLbw

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This log cabin is unbelievably beautiful. It is in the Algonquin Highlands, from what I read.

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Sillysausage234 in reply to

Gorgeous I’m jealous

in reply toSillysausage234

Not the same Algonquin area, sorry, my bad. ☺️ It really is a beautiful area though.

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Sillysausage234 in reply to

I know why you like snow now so picturesque

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I drove thru parts of Canada. Love the waterfalls up there. Don't remember which parts I went thru but beautiful. Had a bit of a time getting back in the US. The guy had me going. It was scary at the time but hilarious now.

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I am not surprised that you found Canada to be beautiful Our most famous waterfall is in Niagara Falls, Ontario, also known as the Horseshoe Falls, due to its shape. The border crossing into the U.S. is also there. Those border crossing agents can be intimidating at the best of times.

Hey, I like your name change. 😉

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I was actually at Niagara Falls for a conference and one other time when my uncle picked me up. I was at an awe of both sides. I could've stood there for days watching the falls. Just as awesome at nite.The name was perfect. I hadn't thot of that until I saw you post it.🙂❤

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Oh yes, the night-time lighting is gorgeous at the Falls. The Christmas lighting is an epic event!

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Might have to check that out.🙂

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I just pictured that......😕

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queenetta

I love hazel eyes, and am lucky enough to have long lashes

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Isinatra in reply toqueenetta

Pink eyeshadow makes the green stand out. Or rim your eyes with any shade of dark purple. Magnifique. 😉

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samack

I had perfect skin that went to Hell. I have almond eyes ,went to Hell, and high cheekbones. Whatcha gonna do?💀

in reply tosamack

And you're still perfect.

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LadyZen

Reading through all of these today, I realized we are all a beautiful bunch. Keeping loving yourself!

in reply toLadyZen

Absolutely!!

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Via11

I have a great smile. Paid for by my parents when I was young , but still.

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Smiling is infectious. Everyone loves a beautiful smile. I do. It can change my whole day when someone smiles at me walking by me. Smiling can be a gift.

I get compliments on my eyes and skin the most. Always being a anxious person, I spend most of my time inside and when I’m outside I always wear sunscreen.

I can recognize good writing and storytelling. It's given me great pleasure in my life.

I've also got big brown eyes and very curly dark brown hair. (Lots of grey now.) It took me a long time to make peace with the curls, but (lol) it helped that a number of women with very straight hair were jealous.

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Isinatra in reply toNothing_but_books

When I was young , I wanted your hair with curls. When I got older, I kind of got what I wanted. Lesson learned…when you ask for something be very specific . Without a ton of hairspray, my hair usually looks like this 🌪on a good day. 🤷‍♀️

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Nothing_but_books in reply toIsinatra

My hair sometimes looks like the lady engineer in Dilbert. (Triangle head.) Especially on a rainy day. Sigh.

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Isinatra in reply toNothing_but_books

Humidity….the Great Destroyer. 🥷

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Nothing_but_books in reply toIsinatra

😱

Me on a good hair day.
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Isinatra in reply toNothing_but_books

🤦‍♀️🤣Yup, a two seater.

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Adlon57

My left heel, when I go out of a room that is the last anyone sees of me, "Thank goodness, I thought he would never go!" Big smiles of relief! 🙄🙃😆😆

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Dolphin14 in reply toAdlon57

Funny :)

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