Anxiety

[Bean13]

I go back to work next Monday after being out on maternity leave for 12 weeks. My MIL is planning on keeping the baby, and honestly I’m really struggling with it. She is a very sweet lady, and I know she’ll do her best, but I’m terrified. I literally have not slept because I’ve been up crying. I’m dreading going back to work and leaving him because I know my anxiety is going to be through the roof, plus I’m starting a new job. I hate this 😔 I want to quit already.

[b1b1b1]

Child care is very difficult to find, so it is kind of your MIL to make this offer. What I don't understand is will he be there only during the day and then at home with you at night,, or will he be with her 24 hours.? It is difficult going back to work and 12 weeks is not a long time. I have gone through the same situation, although not with my MIL, so I understand how hard it is to leave a small baby. If you can pick him up after work, I think you will adjust and he will be fine, but you have to be prepared to be pretty tired for the first year or so.

[Bean13 in reply to b1b1b1]

He’ll only be there until 8-5 for 2-3 days a week. I’m just so worried to leave him 😔 I feel like if something happens, it’s my fault

[b1b1b1 in reply to Bean13]

Nothing will happen. Your MIL knows how to take care of babies. Also having your MIL is much better than day care or a hired person, especially with covid. He will get a lot of personal attention which he would not get in day care. Also, you can telephone her once a day to chat and see how things are going. Try not to worry and mostly, get as much sleep as you can. An infant needs a lot of attention. and this is very tiring. This will be your first separation from him, though, and I can understand that this is upsetting for you. I think after a week or two you will start to relax, knowing that he is in a good place. Also, you will still have really a lot of time to spend with him yourself. xx

[Bean13 in reply to b1b1b1]

Thank you!

[Midori]

It is a natural fear when you have a baby. don't fret. All will be well.