Anxiety

[RainbowKitty03]

I’m at work and I cannot focus.. my mind keeps going to that dark place I just want to be held and I want to cry.

[anx1234]

Go to the restroom or some other private space and schedule 20 minutes for a cry. Then, go for a walk. Around a different office floor if not outside. Drink some water. Do 3 minutes of deep diaphragm breathing.

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to anx1234]

Thank you I’ve been crying all shift I’m just making myself sick at this point

[anx1234 in reply to RainbowKitty03]

In that case, cry if you need to - that’s ok. But also try instituting something else. Maybe wash your face and fix your eyebrows or whatever girls do (sorry I am clueless) what I mean to say is take a moment to compose yourself physically even if you are a wreck emotionally. The act of grooming can short circuit circular thoughts. Anything that requires some thought will draw blood away from the stress areas! Then you will be able to address your fear more mindfully and less in the grip of unchecked emotions.

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to anx1234]

I’ll try the makeup thing when I get home and have anxiety but I work at a convenience store all night I’ve been splashing water on my face crying my eyes out hyperventilating it’s just unbearable I’m trying to get ahold of it but idk what’s going on

[anx1234 in reply to RainbowKitty03]

Without sharing personal details, what sort of job do you work at? Or alternatively, what would you rather be doing right now if you weren’t working?

[Taylorsunshine]

Sometimes I'll go on YouTube & watch funny videos...it takes my mind off whatever is bothering me. I hope you feel better soon 😊

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to Taylorsunshine]

What kind of YouTube videos are you into ? I can never find something to keep my focus

[anx1234 in reply to RainbowKitty03]

Watch this one! It’s doggies racing for balls. youtu.be/Drp8Gu4lx5U(Not working as expected?)

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to Taylorsunshine]

That’s a good idea I never really have any use for my phone bc I don’t have any friends so I don’t know what to look up I recently started getting into my phone bc the anxiety is so unbearable I need a distraction which is how I ended up on this website lol but thank you 😊

[Marshall64 in reply to RainbowKitty03]

Do you have any hobbies or interests? I'm on a forum for guitars, ww2 aircraft (I'm a nerd) and some other websites. They get me out of my head. If you have any artistic ability, maybe you can draw or do something similar. They have coloring books for adults and I have heard they help against anxiety.

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to Marshall64]

I actually haven’t found any hobbies before I would work constantly until I found my significant other then I started hanging out w them more and I guess I just never got into anything I have no artistic ability what so ever and I don’t have friends reasons behind me constantly feeling lonely and hopeless

[Hidden in reply to RainbowKitty03]

A distraction is what you need I think, has this place helped at all?

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to Hidden]

Honestly, it helps but then it doesn’t it helps bc it feel nice to know people are there and everyone is so understanding and everyone is pretty good with advice

[Hidden in reply to RainbowKitty03]

Well maybe after some time you will make some good friends on here and you can go through it all together.

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to Hidden]

That’s what I’m hoping for I just want someone to talk to who understands what I’m going through someone just to talk through everything bc I don’t have friends and I just need support

[Hidden in reply to RainbowKitty03]

Well there are plenty of us here, so you don't need to look any further. ☺️

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you it means a lot knowing someone is there

[Hidden in reply to RainbowKitty03]

You are very welcome...

[-Sasha-]

I feel for you hun, it's the worst feeling like you need to break down and cry your eyes out but can't because you're around others. As adults we have responsibilities.... dealing with depression and/or anxiety, well they don't seem to give a shit about our plans do they. A couple things that help me is:

• listening to music... I try to find something upbeat or something that is linked to happy memories.

• finding something that makes you laugh... I like to browse through jokes until I find one that makes me crack up and keep that as my joke of the day.

They don't always work for me but hopefully one can work for you.

~S~

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to -Sasha-]

I hate myself more and more and I feel ashamed every time I look back and realized I broke down and cried especially the very bad cries when I’m screaming uncontrollably after it I’m like why did I do that but when it happens I’m not aware of what’s going on or where I’m at

Which is why I’m always so scared and never want to be alone

Music doesn’t really help me like I can’t seem to focus on the words without my mind going to a dark place

But I will try the joke one thanks (:

[-Sasha-]

You should never feel ashamed. Remember that sometimes you have to just go through the emotions and let yourself feel them. Remember that it's only a setback and not a step back. It's not something you can always control so you shouldn't beat yourself up about it.

~S~

[RainbowKitty03 in reply to -Sasha-]

I can’t help but feel ashamed and embarrassed I hate it

I just want it to go away and never come back and every day I feel weaker and I feel like what’s the point of going on if I can’t even get through a day without crying like some pathetic loser who can’t get her shit together

I just lose sight of the other side where things get better

[OB73]

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