Friends

[Weelon]

I’ve just discovered that my friend has changed in the company of our partners. She’s started to belittle me in a condescending way in front of others.

My partner reckons she’s not very bright & just wants to fit in. She repeats what you have said in a conversation, done better & has the last word as well as put you down.

I have tried to praise her on many occasions as she’s insecure. At the same time she’s been there for me twice when I needed advice but she wasn’t so supportive on the second time around. I just put that to me being too much for her.

Any advice appreciated.

[Mrspjsmom]

It sounds like you shouldn't tell her things you don't want repeated. Do that for awhile and see what happens. She might be doing this because she doesn't understand anxiety and depression or because she doesn't know how to help and support you. For more than 40 years I had two close friends. As my anxiety and depression got worse one of them slowly distanced herself from me. I can't remember the last time I saw her and we only communicate now by text even though she lives near me. The other has stood by me. We talk several times a week and see each other often. But the one who distanced herself just didn't know what to do with me. I will still always be there for her because I understand why she distanced herself. I hope things work out with your friend. HUGS!!!

[Weelon in reply to Mrspjsmom]

Ok it’s possibly me that doesn’t fully understand either & will give her the benefit of the doubt. I believe she has anxiety too not too sure if she has depression. Thanks for your thoughts.

[Mrspjsmom in reply to Weelon]

Your feelings are valid. Not right or wrong. Try giving her the benefit of the doubt but if she hurts you again it's ok to protect yourself.