How do I fight this depression

[ChineseGift]

How do I get over my ex

Hee just broke up with me and I feel so depressed

What can I do to get him off my mind nothing seems to be working

[PastelPink20]

I got broken up with last Sunday (8/22). I definitely spent most of this week feeling suicidal.

I think, there’s a certain amount of grieving that is natural and should be allowed. To mourn the relationship that once was and to bury the future hope that is now dead. Rethinking and talking about it is one way to process it, understand your feelings, and then, be able to control the story that you tell yourself about the relationship, what it meant to you, who you are now.

It helps to have people in your corner who you can vent to, be broken in front of, and together build yourself back up.

One of the better things about heartbreak is the reassurance of not being alone in the misery. There are millions of people who are equally single and unhappy about it. An understood pain. An ability to put on a number of songs written by females that are expressing their disdain, female empowerment, and sorrow over being rejected. I have been playing multiple on replay. [Sorry if I’m wrongly assuming your gender].

It’s hard to stop thinking about him. Missing him. What went wrong. What you would have done differently. What you hate about yourself. Etc.

You want some sense of closure. I think, writing the unsaid things so that you get to say them for you or making a list on why he wasn’t the one and letting him go... are big things. Idk. People in my inner circle helped me see the mistakes we both committed in our relationship (AKA the things he did) and I was able to give us both more grace.

I know, for me, having other things to do, to worry about, and other environments that are completely my own forced me to focus and be present as who I am now and alone. Places I had to be that force me to get up. People who wanted to see me. Responsibilities with unchangeable deadlines.

If I’m being real, having people around me inspire me about my life, listen to me, remind me of strengths, and speak to me about how purposeful my future will be... that was the most healing thing I could have ever had. I didn’t even know or couldn’t have asked for it.

I had a friend who’s 32 years older than me (so more like a mentor but not that official) talk to me over the phone and I cleaned my depression room while we talked. Powerful.

I recognize, I am quite young and my relationship was not as serious or long as others. I can’t compare my journey to yours, but, I hope my compassion for you comes through what I’ve written.

You deserve kindness. You are worthy of love. You are a powerful, resilient, strong person. You always have an ability to grow and learn. You are human and your emotions are valid.

What are your strengths? How can you take better care of yourself through this time? What are ways you can be reminded of the hope you have for your future?

Best to you,

It takes time and it takes work and you are more than capable. You will be okay. I do believe it does get better.

[ChineseGift in reply to PastelPink20]

Thanks so much 🤧🤧Everything I do reminds me of hi

[ChineseGift in reply to PastelPink20]

I don't even know what my strengths are anymoreNothing seems to interest me anymore

I'm always indoors on my bed crying

I'm trying my best to move on but it doesn't seem to be working I see myself texting him every minute

[ChineseGift]

I messed up I have been in a relationship where I felt used and played

The feeling was so depressing

So I told myself I was going to be more careful with any guy I'm going to date

Cause when I date I put all my heart into it

So when I met him things where going fine till I saw some messages about me on his phone he apologized

But I my head I was afraid

It seems like history was about repeating itself and that's what I didn't want

So after some months I hacked his WhatsApp

That was a stupid thing to do actually

But I was just trying to make sure I wasn't been fooled

So he found out and said it's over

I tried explaining why I did what I did but it seems like he has Already taken the decision

I feel heart broken

Cause I felt that alone wasn't enough to separate us

I asked him if there were other things he wasn't telling he said no

That it was his only reason

I just wish I can change everything so we can be together

Nothing seems to interest me anymore

Well about how I came up with my name

Actually my name is Gift

But my friends call me Chinese because I have small eyes

I grew up loving the name even though some people find it wired lol

[ChineseGift]

I guess it's going to be hard finding love againI'm going to try as much as I can to move on

[ChineseGift]

Thanks so muchI'm glad I joined this platform

This is my first time posting

And getting all this words makes me feel better ☺️

I really appreciate you for taking out your time to reply my message

Lol don't worry about my long reply just wanted to pour my heart out cause it feels this I the only safe place to do it

I don't really have friends

Just few

And we rarely talk

No one has really given me the opportunity to have a heart to heart talk

Sometimes it feels like I'm all alone even when I'm in the midst of people, I really appreciate ❤️😘

[ChineseGift]

I really appreciateIt feels good knowing there are people out there who still cares for you I really appreciate

Maybe we could be friends ☺️

[ChineseGift]

I'm not sure I'm doing anything nice for myself The day is already over

But I'm glad I feel better now

I guess it will take time for the pains to go away

09038034692

That's my WhatsApp number probably we can chat there

I know I can overcome this

I believe in myself