Time to be unhappy

I am the weakest link. Goodbye!

[hypercat54]

I hope I catch you before you go John and hopefully you will decide to stay with us.

I can relate to you as have been in this situation a number of times in my working life and remember very well thinking oh my god this is so difficult and I will never get the hang of it. I always did though and then over time it became easy and second nature.

I had a job once where I had to take benefit claims over the phone. This involved talking to someone whilst using the computer. There were so many things to remember I felt like the thickest person alive! I did eventually get the hang of it but it took a while. In the end I could do it while thinking of what I was having for dinner!

Your employer needs to ensure you have someone with you to show you the ropes properly until you get more confident. I will pass on to you what I was told. There is nothing wrong with saying to a customer I am new so please bear with me if I am a bit slow. Most people are fine with this. I used it several times and the customers were fantastic. Many of us have been through this too don't forget.

I hope you think again and decide to stay with us. We understand and will help and support you all we can.

Oh and to make you laugh I once worked as a bar person and the first customer I served I put peppermint into a shandy instead of lemonade! The customer took one sip and nearly choked. I was embarrassed but she was fine when I explained I was new and we ended up laughing about it.

And you should have seen me learning to drive....

[samack]

The weakest link? Have you met me? 😺

[Hidden in reply to samack]

I am calling myself stupid

[samack in reply to Hidden]

I'm calling myself a worthless nothing. Do you want to compete? Really, depression and anxiety make us feel the worst of things. I have a list that I have to work on getting rid of through cognitive intervention.

[Roxylox in reply to samack]

And me?

[hypercat54 in reply to samack]

Or me?

[secrets22]

John,i do think you need professional help to get through all this depression,and what you are going through.If not you will be plunged into an abyss of which it will be very difficult to crawl out of.i have had years of feeling worthless and not worthy,but i have been receiving help from a phycologist for years and the help has been extraordinary,without it i'm not sure if i would survive. Do seek help from your GP and do be completely honest,say it how it is.

Help is out there so please do a search in your local area.Be kind to yourself.

[Hidden in reply to secrets22]

That's the only way round it

[Hidden in reply to secrets22]

Do you even live the UK

[secrets22 in reply to Hidden]

yes i do live in the UK,in the West Country, and the support i've been given is extraordinary. I owe them a debt of thanks.

[Hidden in reply to secrets22]

I didn't know you get support

[secrets22 in reply to Hidden]

but you have to ask.Your GP should be able to refer you to the local mental health team,they cover a multitude of health problems,but you must always say how you feel on your worst days,and then you will be refered to the appropriate team.

[LiveandLetLive42]

I'm sorry you are going through some tough stuff. That doesn't make us weak. It's definitely a struggle though. I'm here if you want to talk XX

[Hidden in reply to LiveandLetLive42]

I am going through shit