Anxious About MyWork Performance

[TopCityJayhawk]

I often get anxious about work even though I'm usually fine when I'm there and working. I get anxious of criticism from my boss or anyone else.

[Blueruth]

That sounds like a little bit of imposter syndrome. We all experience it but if you are a perfectionist you may be more prone.

You wouldn't be there if they didn't think you could do the job.

Criticism isn't always criticism. Most of the time people say it to help you improve which we all need. Otherwise why bother if they don't care? I used to be sensitive about this and what helped me is to assume they are trying to be helpful even if it seems cold. I mean let's be honest... giving feedback well is a skill. It isn't automatic just like being an expert at your job isn't automatic. Learn to say thank you even if it is hard. That will tell you if they are being mean and it will invite discussion or maybe break the ice. IOW, don't just leave it alone ... open a discussion. It takes practice and that is okay. I promise that will help you with confidence and be a reality check.

[TopCityJayhawk in reply to Blueruth]

Thank you. When I'm called for making a mistake I try to remember no one's perfect but I still find myself beating myself up over it. This inner dialogue leafs to anxiety and then worry about being terminated ( although I've done my job for my employer for almost 20 years).

[Blueruth in reply to TopCityJayhawk]

Google imposter syndrome. There are a lot of ideas but know you aren’t alone.

[Roxylox]

I get like that too, especially as I have been criticised in the past though more by fellow workerd than bosses. I try really hard.

[Nonna60]

I have always had that reaction to criticism as well. How do you handle it? I bet others around you feel the same, sometimes. A lot of us seem to strive for unreachable perfection.

[Yogi2021]

I really struggle with this too... I need to learn techniques to manage my response to criticism also but wanted to let you know your not alone xx