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Depression and unexpected calmness from... Cows!!

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Random... has anyone else experienced anything like this?

I was feeling a little low couped up in my flat working from home on a hot sunny day so I decided to go for a walk. So on the way to the local river I have to walk across a field. I enjoy photography but currently only use my mobile. In the distance were a herd of diary cows grazing. So I slowly walked up and started taking a few shots. To my surprise they came so close I could touch them but really oddly I felt an amazing connection and calmness! After I realised they weren't going to trample on me or eat me alive, I was so relaxed πŸ˜†.

Whether I was just enjoying the moment or something deeper I just loved it. I left feeling so much more uplifted in my mood. Attached is one of my photos.

Update: Since posting this I've done some further reading. Go try it for yourselves (with all relevant precautions, as I certainly wouldn't want any come back if anyone got injured) and see how you get on. But be respectful, calm and quiet. It's good to spread some positivity on here as so many are going through a tough time!!

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For some reason when I see birds it makes me happy especially colorful ones ☺️- Hiba

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Rayblade900 in reply to Hb2003

Hi Hb2003, I've often heard nature and outdoors is good for mental health but this was a strange deeper connection (I'm not a tree hugging looney either) 🀣I've never experienced anything like this before. It's like they were helping me mentally... weired!

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Hb2003 in reply to Rayblade900

Well you might have a attachment to certain animals ☺️ I have only hugged a tree once so uncomfortable lol πŸ˜‚

She’s a beautiful cow …..nature is definitely where it’s at

known a few two legged ones in my time.but this is my four legged picture.

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Rayblade900 in reply to kenster1

Hi kenster1, hope you said hello respectfully πŸ˜‡The 2 legged versions... hmm, dangerous territory and no comment 🀣🀐

True story Ken there’s cows in the field next door to me alternate with sheep anyway there used to be one called poppy used to run along the fence and I would give it the last of my coffee….and must admit was better company than some 2 legged ones …..good luck tomorrow

miracles sometime do happen but NOT tomorrow still 30.000 Scots travelling down at least the boozers will be busy for a few days.

Animals can be very sensitive to the needs of humans and cows are by no means stupid. In my opinion it is possible that the cows sensed a need in you and perhaps, without too much conscious thought, tried to fill it. Go visit them again! They will get to know you.

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Rayblade900 in reply to b1b1b1

Hi b1b1b1, I did a little reading after I posted this on here and you are right about cows not being stupid. I will go back and apparently they have great memories and can recognise you. If I had more free time I'd seriously volunteer to help the local farmer.

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Roxylox in reply to b1b1b1

To Rayblade, Just beware in case there is not also a bull in the field, he might not be so calm or calming! I speak as someone who grew up on a farm, and my husband had cows until recently . Now just calves and cattle who wouldnt be as placid.

Not all cows are placid at all mind you. I used to rub the quieter ones and it was comforting. They did seem to enjoy being rubbed Growing up on a very small farm- about 12 cows, l had names for them- Jenny and Daisy 2 I can remember.

Both growing up and living here I used to find the long, slow journey bringing them in for milking boring. Now l realise l could have used it mindfully.

Mind you sometimes one or two might suddenly unleash liquid of the brown smelly type back onto you which was not at all pleasant!

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Rayblade900 in reply to Roxylox

Hi Roxylox and thank you for the advice and info.I did actually look for a bull before I went over as you rightly point out they may not be so affable.

I'm also aware of the protective nature Mum's would be with a young calve so equally respectful.

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Roxylox in reply to Rayblade900

That's right. Good you are knowledgeable. They are a loveable animal alright though.

This, is why 'horse therapy' is so popular and thought to be effective (calm, large animals just have a sort of calm gravitas that transfers to people near them -- from their view, I suspect they're a bit bored so welcome a novelty such as a visitor).

Good to hear it works with cows, too. (maybe some farmer will take the hint and offer 'cow therapy' -- 'horse therapists' get paid rather hefty fees for the service).

~wbic, member anxiety-depression-support forum

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Rayblade900 in reply to wbiC

Hi wbiC, I did a google search and apparently in Holland "Cow Cuddling" is a big thing and being promoted as a form of "wellness therapy" for mental health. I did not even touch the cows as not growing up in the country I am certainly not experienced around livestock. However, I also read that they actually enjoy being fussed over (I suppose who doesn't

πŸ˜πŸ˜ƒ). I was respectful but also the only person around so just me and them, which was superb.

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b1b1b1 in reply to Rayblade900

Cow cuddling sounds wonderful; I would love to try it.

Cows are usually pretty chill, and curious but not in a threatening way. I always stop to say hello if I’m out on my bike and have the time. Have you seen the farmer on YouTube who plays the trombone for his cattle? They come and listen.

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Rayblade900 in reply to propjock

Hi propjock. I searched and found a video called "Serenading the cattle with my trombone (Lorde Royals)". Absolutely brilliant! Are you sure the cows were listening, or saying "do you mind, that racket is disturbing the peace!"

It's interesting that whatever you search for on the web, there's always a negative! Read that people have been attacked and died by cows (although a minority). I suspect that they (the cows) were protecting the young or that it may have been an irresponsible dog owner and spooked? The positives outweigh the negatives and most people like you say they are friendly curious animals. I for one will definitely be going back for another "free therapy session"!


I tried to milk and a cow once very embarrassing the farmer said sorry son that's no cow that's a bull. I won't go on πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ˜…

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Hb2003 in reply to Timepass

lol πŸ˜‚

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Rayblade900 in reply to Timepass

Hi Timepass, you were obviously a city-boy or had a sheltered upbringing πŸ˜„

Cows can be pretty sweet if they don't see you as a threat. I love you ice cream beast <3

Hi Enduser13... Ice cream beast??? πŸ˜‚

Sure! All praise the beast that makes such wonderous things

Great discovery! Thank you for sharing with us.

Every day I drive by a farm with cows that graze right off the road. I roll my window down and 'moo' at's one of the best parts of my day.

Hi Broken1971. That made me smile. To onlookers this "mad person" hangs out the window mooing... priceless 🀣

Yeah, one day I looked in my rearview mirror and this lady was laughing at me. Glad to put a smile on someone's face!

Can I add a note of caution, please don't try this with beef cattle, especially when they have calves around. If you have a dog, avoid the field entirely. They have been known to trample dog walkers and their dogs.

Cattle with calves at foot are the opposite to dairy cattle,whose calves are reared separately. They are very protective and can be really dangerous!

I have worked with cattle in the past.

Cheers, Midori

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Rayblade900 in reply to Midori

Hi Midori and yes, aware of what you have highlighted so thank you.I'm certainly not advocating anyone getting hurt.

I've slightly tweaked my post to proceed with caution!

It's just that so many folk: a. can't tell the difference between beef cattle and dairy cattle, and: b. are totally ignorant about letting their dogs off the lead in pastures.

With so many holidaying in the country this year, it's just a matter of time before someone gets hurt, or a farmer shoots their dog for stock worrying. Sheep worrying is already high this year.

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Rayblade900 in reply to Midori

That's a fair comment. I'm certainly no country boy but know the difference and I do not own a dog. Sadly it's a broader conversation and not one to open up here as wanting to share my "positive experience". I agree with you though.

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Midori in reply to Rayblade900

I agree about the positive experience. Cows can be a lot of fun.

Rain storms are my peaceful calming thing. It gives me that inner peace

When I see a cow I think of how tasty said bovine would be on the old grill with a slice of cheese melting on top. πŸ€ͺπŸ€£πŸ˜‚ Sorry about that I know I'm going to ruffle someone's feathers with that post.

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DodgeDhanda in reply to Timepass

Whose feathers πŸͺΆ ? I'm more of a pork products man myself πŸ€€πŸ€€πŸ‘πŸ½

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Timepass in reply to DodgeDhanda

πŸ₯“πŸ“πŸ‚πŸ‘ it's all good.!

Hi Ray. Great pic. I get where you are coming from about cows. Having previously been very wary of them I was once introduced to some by a friend who wasn`t afraid at all. I soon saw their beauty and my fear evaporated. Those long eyelashes and such gentleness. I think they can be great teachers of calm - mooving so slowly whilst they chew on some grass! This week in particular i have met with several animals who have certainly lifted my spirit and made me smile.

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Rayblade900 in reply to Jay2O

Hi Jay20. Thanks for your reply. If this helps even one more sufferer then brilliant. I know a lot of people find dogs great company and soul mates, but this felt more of a connection... very weird. I'm not spiritual at all but whatever it was, it was very powerful for me.

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