What are some tools you use to promote your own self-worth?

[loradream]

Self-care, self-esteem, and self-worth seem to all be very different things. How do you find the ability to forgive yourself for your mistakes? What mindsets have you adopted that have benefited you along the journey of healing? What have you done that you felt contributed to cultivating your own sense of self worth? I am realizing after all this time, I've never acknowledged my self-worth. And now that I am recognizing that concept, I realize my self worth seems to be almost non-existent. Thanks for taking the time to read and hopefully answer this.

[Opportunity]

I hated myself for many years and did a ton of research. Here’s what I found: Emotional literacy (naming how I feel), developing my inner parent, and developing boundaries. These three things seem to fix most human problems of self-worth. The three things kind of work together. You have to face how you feel. To do that, you have to know what feelings are, and how they are different from thoughts. Once you face how you feel and think, you need the soothing, forgiving inner parent to get through. And relationships will overwrite your inner parent without boundaries, hence the last of the three. They all work together, for me, and I now feel pretty good most days. I guess you could say I moved my baseline from “hate myself 👎” to “doing ok!👍🏼”

[loradream in reply to Opportunity]

Thank you for the response! It feels as my inner parent and inner child are quite dicey with one another, often times it really does feel like an argument in my head between parent and child. The child is very naive and wants to believe every thought in my head is true. I have much more development to do in order to have a healthy relationship between the two but of course I only know as much as my awareness will allow me. After all these years, do you experience waves where you forget about your inner parent and kind of go down hill for a few days? I am usually able to pick myself back up and recognize I wasn't listening to my higher self but in the intense moment it is so difficult to recognize that. I am glad to hear you are doing ok now!

[Blueruth]

I had an false expectation that if I created art I was supposed to sell it or show it. The reality is my interest changes too much to do that. So giving up that idea has giving me so much freedom and it is very healing. Also good for self worth and esteem.

Yoga... but it was also really the community at the studio I went to. Unfortunately they couldn’t survive covid. I’m also trying to develop my own private practice.

[loradream in reply to Blueruth]

HI Blueruth! I am also very creative myself, I am currently struggling with the opposite. I have never felt truly comfortable sharing my art and it has given me so much freedom to explore, but now I am feeling cravings of showing my art on a platform. To be recognize but also to see if anyone else can relate to what I am making. I am not sure how to do this or if I can find the confidence to share myself with the world like that though. On another note, yoga is so great! The hardest part is starting it. Sorry to hear about your studio, community is so important and I think it is another aspect that I am currently searching for. Hence why I joined this website today. Thanks for the response

[Blueruth in reply to loradream]

I okay with sharing. It is the selling. You lose yourself. I joined some craft groups where they want to compete with Chinese produced macramé. That just sounds horrible. It is production work!

So does commission because I have seen how they will ask you to change it. Fine for some. Not for me! I do belong to a couple inspired groups. If you weave I can’t point you to a couple good groups. I haven’t found much in the way of drawing. You could also just start posting on Instagram. If you don’t have a following there is no pressure because no one knows you 😂. I post photos and tag them. I get some likes from people I don’t know. The art museum liked my photo. That’s 😎