Any healthy tips on dealing with stress,sadness,loneliness?

[Athenz22]

I need help with being able to be okay by myself. I want to know anything about better balancing myself.its exhausting constantly overthinking things that aren't even issues to begin with and getting really sad then 15 minutes later laughing like nothing has happened. Basically what im asking is how do you guys deal with stress and loneliness? And just overwhelming sadness

[bytesized]

First off, I would like to say that it's ok to feel stressed, lonely, and sad every once in a while. I felt pretty sad today for no reason in particular, but I didn't worry about it. I made sure to accept those feelings, and to give them space to be there, because one of my habits is to shove negative emotions down inside, which is very unhealthy.

I have a lot of experience with loneliness. I felt really lonely a lot when I was a younger kid. I felt like I had no one to talk to about the things I was interested in, or the things I was thinking about. I would hear about other people doing all of these fun things, (and hear other people say that they're busy, and can't spend time with me, because they're busy doing other fun things with other people).

I ended up not being able to feel happy a lot, because my condition of happiness was placed in other people.

I would say what I did that I ended up helping me overcome how big of a factor loneliness was in my life, was 2 things: 1, I made sure to recognize the good people that are in my life, and to stop trying to get closer to people who didn't care about me. 2 and this is the bigger one, I decided that I wasn't going to place my condition of happiness in other people. Instead, I was going to be happy to just be by myself, and I learned to enjoy my own company! I learned to just take interest in the things I was interested in, and to be there for myself.

Speaking of which, I have spent a lot of time on my computer, and I haven't gone outside too much in the past few weeks, and I made a goal to go on an adventure this weekend! I am gonna explore the downtown area where I live, and I'm gonna see what kind of stores there are. Maybe I'll buy something cool for myself if I find something like that. Maybe you could plan an adventure for yourself to go on for this weekend too?

[Athenz22 in reply to bytesized]

Totally! I believe a date with myself is definitely in order. ive made excuses these past weeks because ive been working but i do have the time. thank you for responding it was great to read something from someone else's pov to try and better myself.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

The first thing I would Addis a gratitude journal. It will help replace negative thinking with a positive connection. Second, exercise or a hobby, will put you into a meditative state. Get into the zone completely blocks out the negative thoughts coming to haunt you.

[Athenz22 in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

thank you so much and definitely a lot of things have been stressing me out and its all been so overwhelming

[froggymom88]

Sending you a big hug. I think it is a good idea to tell yourself you are ok because words have power. If you tell someone a lie often enough ,they are apt to believe it. So go ahead and tell yourself you are ok because you are. It doesn't mean there aren't issues or things you need to change or work on. Try to think of the things you want to make improvements in and work on them one at a time. You are ok because you are beautifully, wonderfully made.

[Athenz22 in reply to froggymom88]

thank you so much not gonna lie that made me tear up a bit but i will definitely start incorporating being more kind with myself. thank you for the hugs