Depressed

[Paskalina]

Hi everyone.it has been a while since i posted on this forum.iam depressed and angry at my Husband.Iam planning to buy a house in my hometown since i live in the city of Windhoek.My Husband and i are married in community of property,when i applied for Home loan we were both checked for credit worthiness,my name is clean despite my Husband owing a lot of money worth of N$106 132.00 and ever since that day when i heard this iam so angry and depressed.My house developer said that she will perhaps settle our debt if her budget will allow her so that i can be able to buy a house.And the thing is i don't earn a good salary and this Husband of mine is unemployed.If the house developer will assist me i have to be deducted monthly to payback the debt including the Home loan.He took a loan during the time when he was working,but when he got retrenched he couldn't manage to pay the debts.My whole energy is drained and iam so worried because iam scared to lose the house plus this too much debts,i don't know how iam going to settle it.Iam on meds and iam doing better,my husband messed up my life when this happened.

[Gentlespirit]

A lot of debt can be draining and depressing. Just do what you can.

[froggymom88]

Sending you a big hug. I think it is a good idea to tell yourself you are ok because words have power. If you tell someone a lie often enough ,they are apt to believe it. So go ahead and tell yourself you are ok because you are. It doesn't mean there aren't issues or things you need to change or work on. Try to think of the things you want to make improvements in and work on them one at a time. You are ok because you are beautifully, wonderfully made.

[Blueruth]

Debt is the worst. IDK how to help other than to suggest reducing that debt in baby steps and separating your credit from his credit if you can. (IDK if it is possible but if you can...) Loosing the house before you close may not be the worst thing to happen tbh.