I care so much about other peoples souls, am interested in people and their emotions...I’m empathetic which can be a good thing as I relate to others and sometimes can help them.
What are your strengths?: I care so... - Anxiety and Depre...
What are your strengths?
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Kind ,caring ,empathetic, understanding, non judgmental and friendly 😊🙏
Yay 😁
Paying attention, listening, staying in routines, relating to others, honesty, fluent in sarcasm
Lol @ fluent in sarcasm
very much so. I have a degree in it 🤣🤣
I have a PhD
same. but I didn't want to brag 😂😂
I love yours, Kainan_li!!!
Greatest strength would be empathy but it comes with the baggage of easily being emotionally drained/hurt because you care about others soo much.
Often times with feelings of depression/anxiety come the difficulty to see ourselves in a positive light. Your post is reminder to all that we all have good qualities. Well unless you're a psychopath/sociopath.
same here
Are u sure it's not Masters? I was hoping to one up u 🤪
We need funding to open a Skool of Sarcasm
in reply to Imaaan
That's a great idea! Heck, I'd get my Doctorate in no time! Surly to bed Surly to rise
Imaaan in reply to
Surely to class is surely a way to seek a sarcastic sense of humor
^ say that 3times and its Gold sticker and DOCTRATE for U 
in reply to Imaaan
Got done without a stumble of the teeth and tongue! (not that that ^^^^ sentence meant anything) Were do I collect my reward?😀
Imaaan in reply to
Look at you with the good comeback.. I laughed out loud real hard..thnxs for that.
Diploma is your reward. Now go out there and make a difference in the world
The existence of psychopathy and sociopathy makes me sad. I sincerely want to see everyone live a happy and fulfilling life, but psychopaths and sociopaths not only make lives hard for others, but they don’t have the tools necessary to attain inner peace. I try to see the good in everyone, and I don’t like the idea of not everyone having some goodness. At least most people do.
Personally, I believe that you cant have inner peace if you are devoid of the basic principles of humanity. Those that constantly prey on others and show no remorse are labeled a psycho/socio path for good reason. Its unfortunate that they exist and are amongst us.
I agree, psycho/sociopaths simply don’t have the tools necessary to find the reward that they think preying on others will get them.
Hi Starrlight,
Maybe this is a stupid question, but I find myself struggling with a lot of your posts. They push me to look at things I wouldn't otherwise. How do you know?
I'm not being sarcastic. Really. How do you know what your strengths are? It's so much easier for me to list my weaknesses.
Sometimes it’s hard to see inside ourselves but that’s ok ...I see you as an honest open loving beautiful person and you are a strong soul who loves to share, very giving. That’s what I see.I’m sure there’s much more that’s just in this minute what I think of. ❤️
Thank you! Your support is encouraging. 🦜 🙏
If you have a moment to reflect today, I would like something extra. How do you look inside yourself and say "This is one of my strengths"?
Maybe it is so obvious to you you don't have an answer... But I would like to begin seeing my strengths for myself.
Anyone have any suggestions?
Ooh and you are fun! I forgot that one!
Made me laugh! 😃
Hmmmmm I think you can start to notice yourself and your actions and try to see how they make you and others feel.
Oh great. The OM self-aware thing. Not my forte. Well that may be why I'm stalled. Too hyper-focused to see the big picture. 😕
I will help you ....You have a good sense of humor
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Thank you Dolphin. Beautiful glorious dolphin! Swimming free and leaping in the sunshine! ❤️ 🐬
Yes, I think I do. But see, I immediately turn it around on myself and think my humor can be elitist. How is it a strength if it could hurt someone?
That's the problem right there. I find fault with myself everywhere. I'm always saying "Ya, but..." Gee I'd like to cut that out.
I think too darned much. SillySausage (Mr. Direct) called me out on it a while back. Something like: don't overthink it. He sure nailed that. 🤨 🦜
Yes he's told me I overthink too.
There are different types of humor. Sometimes people don't catch on to some.
I know you wouldn't hurt anyone.
Except the people I care about most in the world. 😥 😥 😥
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Two years later, and the help is still appreciated. Ya. I think I do.
You have come a long way in two years my friend!
Help is always here for you and now we have our boy.
Here, take a look at the cutest butt ever.
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Auntie keep up the good work ❤️🦔
Not bad, Mom. We'll call it a tie, shall we?
Cutest tail contest winner.
Alright, I admit it. I want to pat that cute butt right now.
Hi Herman sweetie!
Then just listen to us as we compliment you,... you’re awesome!!! You are endearing!!!
You can't see me... I'm nodding my head and feeling g-o-o-d. 🙏
Yaaaay!!!
I am awesome. Wow, I needed that today. So glad I found this old post.
in reply to Nothing_but_books
You're not alone. We are our worst critics. Our strengths (IMO) are what keeps us going day after day. The things our friends and families love about us.
Nothing_but_books in reply to
Hi! It's nice to know I'm not the only one. 🦜
I care for others, very loyal, on time, great with kids & animals.
Beautiful!!!!! 🥰
I've been told that I'm a good listener and empathetic. A good ( warped) sense of humor
Starrlight in reply to
Haha awesome!
I'm a great listener. I'm a great friend.
I make a great lasagna and cup of coffee hahaha☕️🐬
Yes! You are! Would be cool to one day try your lasagna and coffee ...
I want lasagna now. 😋
I'm on my way 🐬
Oh boy! I'm starving!
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I wonder if the market is going to see an uptick in noodle sales?
I have a feeling it's going to be a lasagna weekend
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Good listener, and I've had some training. Good teacher, patient, stay with a person until the light goes on. Kind. Funny with words.
Those are great Propjock!!!
I had somehow guessed that Starr. I'm an empapath.to. so maybe it takes one to no-one. Its Tough sometimes, I know. But, it means we can help where others can't, do jobs that others couldn't, because of we can see things, in people more clearly. The down side is that because we want to see the good in people, that can make us vulnerable to the Narcissists and Charletons of this World. 🤷♀️
Oh yes so true and no matter how many times we get hurt we still want to give the benefit of the doubt. Wait- what are Charlestons?
I suspect it was a typo, and that Dubba meant "charlatan", not the new dance craze.
I never thought of it that way before. I think I am empathic too. Your comment about it making us more vulnerable is spot on.
It's something, I've thought about. A lot! 🌹
Hmmm, my strengths? I'm a survivor. I've been through a lot with the crazy mental health system, in the past I've made 2 serious suicide attempts, I've moved from lousy apartment to another lousy apartment, had to deal with narcisstic dad who can be very verbally abusive and still is, dealt with arrogant psychiatrists who really couldn't care less about what their prescribing me, had to deal with this bipolar label hanging over me, and currently I am finally letting go of the main relationship I've been in for 20 years because I've really known since I was 40 that it's just NOT going to work and it has run it's course. I'm at a crossroads now where I'm realizing only me can rescue me, and I'm trying to figure out what I need to do to help myself, a lot of things have not worked out for me but maybe that means I'm getting closer to what will. Even though I'm 50 I still have dreams of making a living writing, I still love music and I like to sing, I keep hoping that one day I will have some money and a nice house and a great husband and a couple of adopted kids. And I feel an urgency to try to make some of that happen right away and not someday, I've been wanting to get off of disability for some time, I'm grateful for it but I can not stay stuck on it in a poverty cycle. I do not buy into some things I have been told about mental illness and I am trying to figure out my way. I need to do less overthinking and more action. I might start doing some type of volunteer work soon. I need to rebuild. My life isn't over yet.🦋
Dubba61 in reply to
It's certainly isn't over yet. I'm a lot older than you n I'm not prepared to give in. Somehow Mental Health gets better with age. Or maybe we get more used to dealing with it. Making Pro-con lists helps me to make the big decisions. 👍
in reply to Dubba61
Oh I do that too. My 40s were rough, a little too rough. Lost all my grandparents one by one, lost both of my godparents, one of whom is a favorite uncle of mine who died by suicide. Lost my apartment and my car in a traumatizing car accident. Lost one of my teeth last year. Now I'm 50 and I need to regroup and stop falling down this rabbit hole. Maybe I had to lose a lot to appreciate what's left.
Dubba61 in reply to
I hear you, mate. I've now lost just about everyone: Mum, Dad, Partner, Grandma's Grandads, many Cousins. Friends, all much Loved. Just a few Aunt and uncles and Cousins left. And my own kids. I have 6 Teeth. But hey, doesn't take much Toothpaste right? 😉 I see it as life getting old. N try to think of what I do have. Sight, good legs, great Caring clever kids. Spring coming. Covid going. My Plants Flowering, Anything, that's positive however tiny just to get through the Day n Night.
Dubba61, I am so sorry for all your losses. I am in awe of your positivity with what you do have along with some humor. Because of your way of thinking, let me say you
are a true Warrior of Life. Your children are blessed to have you in their lives. xx
Agreed ❤️
Thank you, Agora, only just seen these lovely comments. I really do hope, I can always keep my Humour n see the Funny side, it's a God send in so many ways. I have a Photograph of a very formal, 60's family wedding and on it my whole family of around 50 people then, have heads thrown back or are bent double, just howling with laughter. I can't remember what we are laughing at! But, it makes me so happy just to look at it! ☺️ My own kids too, are together for about, 10 minutes, before turning into giggling 12 year olds, again! It makes for Happiest of memories. 💖
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I'll be SO glad to see Covid going away!!!! I'm sorry for everyone who's gone from your life. It's tough getting older and I don't do well going to funerals. Now that I'm getting older I wish there would be more movies out there made about people over 40 where the story centers around them rather than marketing them for people in their teens and 20s. And I've always been really into music and lately I'm starting to feel like I'm losing touch with some of the music that's out, my mom is 78, sometimes I feel like she's lost in the past with her CDs and records of the Beatles and Elvis and Barbra Streisand- who are all great and sometimes I'll listen to that with her but then there's times I'll try to play something that's more current and she'd just rather hear the music she grew up on.
Dubba61 in reply to
Ohh Yes, it's been the oddest year of my life. My Uncle 92 died very early on of this Covid. He went in Hosp for a broken Hip n caught the thing! Lovely bright smart old fella. Bothered no-one, just did his Painting n listened to his Classical music. Lived alone. Sad that we couldn't go. N yes, I'm easily the most useless, guest, at a Funeral. I cry from when the Flowers arrive, till everyone goes home and beyond that! Because it brings to mind every other one you ever went to doesn't it? N yes I agree, I used to go " The Pictures" we call it, every week. Now I manage about once a year if i find something I want to watch. N the TV not much better. They should consider us more, really. I see from your title that you are a bit of a 'Rocker'? Me too. Perhaps you would like 'Christina and the Queen's' or 'Florence and the Machine' or Jake Bugg' three of my more current, favourites. I understand your Mum, she is living in her best life, memories, I think. As older folk often do. Of course, I love the Beatles with a passion. Because they where our own. Working Class Lads, who never lost their "Scouse" accent and were true to their roots.They had integrity and showed that the working Class are intelligent. Liverpool was and is so poor and the people, so dry and funny. You can't help but love em. I've never met one I didn't like. But, time moves on. As we must. And find other New things too love. I really should go to Sleep. I have developed an awful Sleeping pattern since Lockdown. I just fall asleep anytime for a couple of hours So I will wish you well. For tonight. Or today I think? In your case. 🧓👍
in reply to Dubba61
Well if you're about to get some sleep don't feel like you need to answer this, I'm just curious now, are you from Liverpool, England??? I'm in Michigan, USA. Right now here it's about 10:45pm. It's so amazing how people from all over the world come on this site. I've talked to people on here from Scotland, India, parts of Africa, this is international. I hope you have a great night!!!🙂
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Starrlight in reply to
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Thank you very much for this post. Since Im struggling so much with my self esteem I thought it would be good to try comment here. I also liked your own answer too. I too am much like you but I havent really acknowledged those qualities as strengths. Instead I maybe have just seen it as the way I am, but to me you have very strong qualities so maybe mine are strong too 🤔 ..
I too am really genuinely interested in people.
Because of this I am a good listener and remember things about people and think about others
I really enjoy seeing others happy and making other people happy too
I like being kind to people
I can get really passionate about things (but Im struggling right now tbh)
Im very affectionate (some may see this as a weakness idk??)
I dont know why it triggers some guilty feelings for sharing that like its selfish or something for acknowledging something good about myself 🤔
Dubba61 in reply to
It is definately not Selfish! But something we might not do very often. I'm a good listener too but, I do talk too much. So people don't realise I am anxious, but, also listening n remembering. Kindness is a really valuable quality I think. The world needs more. 👍
Starrlight in reply to
I think I know what you mean that feeling like we shouldn’t admit any good qualities about ourselves, but it’s okay, we can. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
starr - i really like that!!! it looks reminiscent of "zentangle"...
very cool!
Oh I just looked up zentangle! 😌
i really like zentangle - anyone can do it - and the results are very artistic!
i read somewhere - something that described it in a way i very much like:
(paraphrasing) zentangle shouldn't be about what you want or are trying to draw - it's about letting the drawing flow thru you to the paper. it draws itself as it wants and you are simply the conduit.
in this way - you don't need to be "an artist" to draw!!! and i can personally vouch for this!!! i luv it!!!! 💜
I’m humble, and I try to hold myself accountable to my principles even when others aren’t looking. I’ll remember anything you tell me about you. I’ve been through hell and am always willing to help out another person going through it.
Awesome attributes!!!!
I have enjoyed reading all of the comments about qualities you admire in yourself. Some advice: try to eliminate two statements in your head...."yes, but" and "What if." Remain in the present and like you all stated: be positive.
My extreme empathy for others is a strength and also a weakness. I take on the problems of others and I am crushed. Covid has overtaken me with sorrow- as if every person lost was my family. I’m not sure I’ll ever recover from the devastation
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