My wife recently requested a divorce and I am totally beside myself. I can't sleep, can't eat, can't function, and I am shivering all the time. I want to get over it and move on, but just seem to keep getting worse. I tried breathing, meditation, can't seem to exercise. I don't know what to do at this point. I just feel so sick and do depressed. I just want the pain to go away...
I Can't Seem to Get Better - Anxiety and Depre...
I Can't Seem to Get Better
I'm sorry to hear that scott. I can understand how this is affecting you. Have you talked with a therapist or your doctor? You may need a little medication to calm down your emotions. Talking with a professional who can give you some guidance as to the path you
need to take right now. This is an unhealthy situation for you in not sleeping or eating or
functioning.
Don't stop the Meditation and Breathing. I'm sorry for your pain. xx
Thank you so much for the response! Sometimes I just need to vent and cry to someone. Unfortunately our friends are mutual and my parents just don't understand...
Definitely find a professional to talk to, and that can be a therapist or a clergyman if you are religious, or even just an acquaintance in your community who you trust. We can all say it will get better eventually but that doesn’t help you now. Her decision is not a declaration of your worth and you are an adult man (assuming by your user name) who existed and functioned before you met her, and you can and will again without her. Find your team you, out of your friends or family or coworkers, who will have your back. And you came here, so you have us, too! I’m sorry you’re having such a bad experience, it sounds like it was a surprise? So maybe a good time to look for what cracks were there that you missed so you can own your part in the relationship and see what you won’t miss about her, too. Many hugs and I hope you have good legal advice for wherever you live.
This sounds really hard. Try to remind yourself that the pain WILL go away. What helps me is supportive thinking. What I mean is, not to try to think positive, but what thinking patterns are more helpful and which ones are harmful or unsupportive.