Hello, I'm new here
Glad to see a group of people supporting one another. Do any of you who suffer depression have advice for how to let people into your life to support you when you feel closed and resentful because of how these people weren't there before?
When I am depressed I need people around me, caring for me and generally being with me...but I live alone and find it really hard to ask for that kind of care. And just wish and hope that my close friends would be able to do it without asking. During a depression episode in October and November I tried to reach out to people by telling them how down I was feeling and people kept saying 'I'm sorry, let me know if there's anything I can do". For me, especially in my depressed state, these type of responses trigger abandonment and rejection wounds and it's almost impossible to ask for what I need-which is someone to come over and be with me.
Now here I am again, in an acute state of depression and received the same comment from my little sister "I noticed you were really down today. Let me know if there's anything I can do'". And again, it made me feel horrible that she wouldn't just take the initiative and come over and be present.
I don't know how to get over my feelings of hurt, rejection and resentment towards this type of response. And my maybe unrealistic expectation of people knowing what to do?
And overall...I end up feeling more alone and depressed that ever.
Please help me think about this situation in a different way!
Thank you!