We are strong

[Jstbcuz]

Did you know that people with anxiety tend to be perfectionists? If only I could feel like my life is in the right direction. I feel alone, a lot. Married with 3 adult daughters. I want to find a job that fits me, something I feel challenged at. Yet, if my husband is home by himself on his days off. (mondays) while I work he tends to drink more beer than the daily 25 ounce tall boy. I came home yesterday from taking care of a lady that I work with. 3.5 hours I was gone, came home, he had fixed something in the bathroom. Its like if he does something he needs to be rewarded with another beer. I can always tell when he drinks. I confronted him about it and he says, I was busy today. I said don't make excuses. I just don't get it. So my anxiety was ramped up this morning. I am so sick of feeling alone. 😞I am so tired of not finding that one job that I will thrive at. I started therapy back up, I am hoping I can get the help to get my life in order. The Election, Covid, weather and everything else that is stressful in the world doesn't help.

[Jeff1943]

Not sure if we're perfectionists but there's a full stop in the 7th line that shouldn't be there.

[Jstbcuz in reply to Jeff1943]

Sry did not understand your reply? 7th line?

[Jeff1943 in reply to Jstbcuz]

Only a perfectionist would care about the full stop in the 7th line of your message because it is an imperfection ie. has no place being there. It was humour, the type of humour that becomes humourless when you have to explain it.

[Dolphin14]

Perfectionism is a coping mechanism Are you belittled or does someone in your life treat you badly when you make a mistake.

Perfectionism can be an attempt at trying to cover something. If I strive for perfection I will cover up something that is bothering me.

We strive for perfection in order to be accepted.

There is no such thing as perfection. No one is perfect. So we are striving for something we cannot achieve.