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Why isn’t love enough?
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What a beautiful question mate,Well the answer is simple. Love is not the only need on earth. I have come to realize that love is indeed a need just like food is a need, shelter is a need and water is a need. Love can not be the only thing we live on bcz it is not the only need we have. I have lived over thirty years on earth and have come to understand that when u live on needs, u will never complain. Have u ever seen people living in luxury and think they will be happy but as they grow they realize that they are not fulfilled? That because luxury living is not a need but love is a need but the other needs must be met as well.
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My depression is suffering really bad today. Experiencing heartbreak while trying to mend my depression is so exhausting and seems hopeless.
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Have u tried anything to elliviat your depression like doing the breathing? Have u spoken to the one who is breaking ur heart?
I hear you!! I have been there too! It took years of therapy, family and friends helping, and meds. Try to find positive things to do for yourself and get professional help if you want to. It doesn't always work for some people. But it's something to try. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
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Zoom Well said!
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Thank u Lazarus
I am not in school 😄
If love was enough the world would be a much better place. To sustain love,you need to like each other as well. Honeymoons don’t last forever. The good must outweigh the bad. You deserve goodness. Someone that has your best interest at heart and has your back. A Friend as well as a lover. It works for me...❤️🏄♀️
What if my best interest is to be on this quest “alone” without their support? What if this person loves me but knows they cannot save me so they remove themselves from the equation?
It’s a complicated issue. There are many reasons why a partner decides to withdraw. I know it’s crushing. But I can’t even begin to speculate the dynamics of your relationship or give advice. I know that even without the trauma of divorce, that your anxiety and depression needs to be dealt with. Perhaps seeking out therapy to help you get through this. As I’ve told others, this site is a good start. Keep coming back. ❤️🏄♀️
Exactly 😄
Love is like a diving board. Very useful but useless unless actually used properly. No love is not enuff on its own. Yes it is enuff to springboard a quest for common ground. We are not in this alone. We drag our friends & family along too. Is love enuff to cure cancer? No but it is enuff to lend support and at times tough love by getting the patient into treatment. Ok this is turning into a ramble so I'm going now while you're still my friend. 💙
What if my best interest is to be on this quest “alone” without their support? What if this person loves me but knows they cannot save me so they remove themselves from the equation?
Hmm. Not sure what you mean. It is always best to take care of yourself first. If someone is not helping you then they are not good to have around. The people who truly love you want you to be happy & healthy. If this journey is too much for them, well, try to understand and let them go with love in your heart. The pandemic has made me realize I'm not the loner I thought I was. We all need people. Alone time is a nice place to visit but don't live there.
Love from another person is not enough.Self love and God's love is enough. Stop searching for it when it's right there inside of you.
Because self-love always comes first.
I am sorry to hear that lessthanalone. That must be hurtful. These are things that sometimes raise up depression. Have you tried to move on with yours?
Don't beat yourself up. Maybe in the meantime u can learn certain things about yourself or do other things which makes you happy. I am sure you know love comes when u least expect.
Unfortunately. Nausea is a symptom of our anxiety.. I don't know the technical side but it seems to produce both cramping and stomach acid production...
Atleast there is a dog keeping u for now. U will be fine though.
Do you have a "self care" routine or something you can do to help settle out or even distract you ? It may sound like a no brainer, but what you put in your stomach can interfere with it's state of ease while in the anxiety mode. It may also sound trite and hokey, but I find Chamomile and or Mint herbal tea helps when I get anxious..as opposed to coffee or any other type of beverages.
Don't rush it lessthanalone, you'll most definately find love. Everyone finds love one way or the other. As I said it usually comes when u are not looking for it, in fact it is the one that finds you, not the other way around. Have you thought about picking up a hobby or something that interest you and who knows love will find you there while you are finding that interest and both of you will be interested in one thing instead of being interested in him. Sometimes you have to change the angle in order to get to the destiny. I think a new perspective will help u in this case.
Enough for what?
That's what I'd like to know. I loved my ex so much...but he ended it. My thought is money is way more important than family. I hope you find true happiness some day. Don't let anyone tear you down!
No one person is to blame for the end of a relationship. It takes 2 to tango. Cliche I know. But cliches become cliches because they are full of truth.
A marriage will not determine who you are, so why do you not love yourself?
What stops you from loving the great person you are?
I am sure there are people whom you love immensly in your life, would you let them hate themselves without highlighting the fantastic individuals they are and helping them work towards awareness, understanding and healing?
Now, could you do that internal work for yourself and your happiness?
I think the saddest part is that people in my life leave me alone to do the work all alone. The people I closely love/loved all end up abandoning me because of my mental health.
Do you feel like no matter how self sufficient you are, there are some moments and emotions and memories in life that have to be enjoyed with other people?
Sadly you have to do the work alone, but that doesn't prevent others from supporting you on that journey.
The thing people often forget is that mental health problems take a massive toll on those around them too and we have a right as human beings to shield ourselves from what can hurt us. Not all of us can deal with certain issues and as such we must respect the choices of those who might have reached their breaking point.
It's really hard to respect this when it just feels like abandonment, but it is the kind of compassion you want for yourself and others.
Re: your question Absolutely! When you are self sufficient especially, you certainly want to share those experiences and emotions with someone else right? But at times it will happen that you will spend more time alone than with others AND you have to learn to be content with that and with yourself.
Your life will change and evolve and those lonely moments will come to pass too.
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