Sexualy frustrated for months... don't understand why this is happening.....

[Dreamer468]

I'm now 20 years old. I'm feeling horny everyday for the past few months. I don't understand why this keeps happening. Before I've controlled the use of porn. But now I ve to watch it everyday once to get rid of this horniness and stress..... so whats happening to me? Anyone have similar experience?

[Hidden]

Yes, everyone who has ever been addicted to any drug has the same experience. The surge of dopamine upon orgasm can become addictive to some peopole for different reasons. It may be due to a trauma, the trauma of a mental illness...many reasons. Do you attend support groups for this, somewhere you feel understood and seen as a valued human? Every single last person deserves to be seen. I work in the addiction feild so feel free to reach out with any questions

[Dreamer468 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for the reply Hidden. No, there isn't much support groups. Even if I go, it will cost me a lot of money. I'm done with looking for help. Till last year, I was seeing a therapist for 2 years. Eventhough it did bring some changes, I had to stop it. Because, my parents(mom) was ashamed of my problems, I've became lazy to see him when my condition worsened. And the sexual frustration keeps going on. I could only be relieved after masturbating 2 times a day. So I can't concentrate on my studies, I feel exhausted all day. So, I decided to control it. I've started the non fap challenge today. I hope it will go on good way...

[LittleDucky in reply to Dreamer468]

Hidden was me, I deleted that account. So I’m curious because two times a day sounds almost healthy to me, can I ask why this feels negative for you? Also I would like to clarify that I am not an expert on this issue, That would probably explain my confusion. I am however experienced highly in the area of addiction.

Aside from that I was thinking support groups that are online and free. For example I have bipolar disorder and I go to support group meetings that are on zoom specifically for people with bipolar. There are people from all over the country in them and they’re incredibly helpful. Even if I’m not getting an answers to my problem or feeling less depressed or less bipolar or less manic, I still just feel seen and heard. That makes a difference for me.

[Dreamer468 in reply to LittleDucky]

Just curious, are you a girl? And if there is any sort of support group, give me its details.I want to talk about my conditions, if you like to talk to me privately using Facebook, What's app or other media it would way more easier and effective.

If you feel like it would affect your price then don't mind. Let's talk this way.

[LittleDucky in reply to Dreamer468]

So, my suggestion was that you go online and look for support groups and meetings yourself. I don’t do others peoples work for them.

If I were a girl (female child) this conversation would be entirely inappropriate. I am a woman (female adult) though I’m not sure why that’s important?

[Dreamer468 in reply to LittleDucky]

Its just that I didn't expect reply from a girl (or womn) about sexual matters. I was surprised, that's all. And about finding help, I think I will wait and sort it out. I don't want to make a quick decision and feel bad later...

[LittleDucky in reply to Dreamer468]

That’s interesting you think you may feel badly for getting some kind of help even if it’s just an online meeting? Seems innocent enough. It probably does seem strange and unorthodox that a female would reply to your question, I was looking at it from an addiction standpoint more than a sexual standpoint because when people masturbate or have sex compulsively and obsessively it’s more about the addiction. Anyways if you’re worried you really should just check out a meeting or something because it sounds like you’re not quite sure if there’s something wrong with you and doing something that’s free and doesn’t require a lot of commitment could help you sort out if you have a larger problem or if you are simply suffering from severe anxiety. If you’re simply suffering from anxiety thenYou won’t be able to do anything about it until you know. Either way I wish you luck with this, it seems like you’re feeling confused and I know that’s not a pleasant way to feel.

[LittleDucky in reply to Dreamer468]

Also I wanted to mention, orgasm is an amazing stress relief tool that is perfectly healthy and normal to use as a coping skill as long as it’s being done appropriately and in a way that doesn’t interrupt other parts of your life that are important.

[Hidden]

So I don't see a problem here. You are 20 and horny. So is literally every single other 20 year old out there. You are a human and humans have urges, totally normal. If you yourself have issues with porn for whatever reasons then don't watch it. And as far as masturbation goes, so long as it doesn't interfere with your daily life (meaning you don't get the uncontrollable urge to masturbate in inappropriate circumstances like at dinner with your family or during your work time) you are fine there too. Again, your young. That is what young people do.

[Dreamer468 in reply to Hidden]

No, it doesn't affect my activities, even it shows urges. I am able to control it. It's just that I've to masturbate atheist once a day, other wise things will drive me crazy. I already have clinical depression, Social anxiety and OCD and other mood swings so masturbating reduces some stress.. but I starting to worry that it might turn to a problem later..

[Hidden in reply to Dreamer468]

Then you don't have a problem and you are just anxious about it for nothing. There if nothing is impacting your daily life then you are fine.

[LittleDucky in reply to Hidden]

Well we’re always anxious about something for some reason and considering that he is saying here that he has OCD that might be where that anxiety is coming from. Unfortunately anxiety isn’t something we can just make it disappear so you might want to see a therapist just wants to actually find out if you have a problem with masturbation or if you are suffering from anxiety or perhaps obsessive compulsive tendencies.

[Hidden in reply to LittleDucky]

That is all very sound advise.

[LittleDucky in reply to Hidden]

I didn’t word it quite well though did I 😂

[Hidden in reply to LittleDucky]

I thought it was said well. You are right we don't know if it's OCD related or not so that is a valid point. Not saying that it definitely is, personally I don't think it is, but I am not a clinician and so I can't say one way or the other. As long as the meaning comes across you are fine. You want to see terrible look at half of my posts haha. I am so bad at grammer and spelling. It's a mess at times.

[AndrewT]

Dear Dreamer468,

Your 20 years old, at your Sexual Peek, you will Never be this 'Virile' again.... Of Course you are going to feel 'Horney', you- without being too rude- Dope! If not 'Now' then when?

Mother Nature is Rattling Every Single Fibre Of Your Being..... Go out and Sow some Seeds!!!!!

Again, without being 'Funny' with you.... You have the Rest Of Your Life, to go Fishing!

AndrewT