privacy?

[magicly_rose]

the one place i felt i had privacy in i figured i don't. i just went to my sent emails on my email account and found that my mom forwarded all my chats on here to her own email. i never have any damn privacy, even when i most need it. i'm tired of life, i'm tired of all of this, but i can't end it all because i promised my father i wouldn't.

[MidnightBriarRose]

Hi, magiclyrose,

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Privacy is a very important thing for everyone and everyone deserves to have it. And I don’t agree with what your Mom did, as even if you are under age, I believe that everyone has a right to privacy. And that is your personal email account which should be for you only. My advice is to open another, secret, email account that you can use for just HU and anything else that you want. But don’t tell your Mom or anyone else that you have it. You might even want to only open that email on a different device and or browser, so your Mom won’t be able to find it. And another idea is to only open that email when she isn’t around. I hope this helps. Take care and be safe!

🌿🌹🌿

[magicly_rose in reply to MidnightBriarRose]

i'd open a new one but i'm afraid my mother would just find it. anything that slightly goes against her rules angers her and i don't know what to do

[MidnightBriarRose in reply to magicly_rose]

I am so sorry to hear that, but maybe you should try opening one when you are away from the house and just only check it when you know you have privacy from her. I just don't want you to not even have the freedom of your own, private email account.

[magicly_rose in reply to MidnightBriarRose]

thank you, means a lot, i might try that <3

[Hidden]

That was a bit harsh, how can ur mom do that? Have u sat her down and asked her why? Maybe she did not mean harm even though it is not a healthy move. Plz don't have neg thoughts, we are here for u... Don't u have a pass code to your gadgets? Maybe u should start thinking about security, it is not a bad thing to have it, it for ur own safety...

[magicly_rose in reply to Hidden]

trust that i have passwords, but at this point i have to give them all to her. she's trying to make a case against my father for custody when she well knows i don't want to live with her. i don't know what she's doing, but i think she's using the chats and me venting trying to pin my pain on my dad, when in reality, it's the other way around.

[Hidden in reply to magicly_rose]

Hey magic rose,

Thanx for the response. Let me be honest wt u, now I get why ur mama is behaving thus. She Is superscared to lose u to ur father. She myt know she is the one who is on the wrong. It is human tendency to behave like that when we feel we lose what we luv. Yes, it is sad that we usually treat what we luv bad but it does not mean we dont luv what we luv. I think she does not know how to handle the situation and so this is her last resort. Plz, be kind to her but at the same time u need to be with the one you love as well. I believe the court will make a decision that is best for u...We are here for u to listen to u vent. Can u plz keep us posted as to how the custody situation.... Take heart

[magicly_rose in reply to Hidden]

thanks, i'll try to keep you posted! i'm just a little scared to be 100% honest about my feelings when she can read all of this

[Hidden in reply to magicly_rose]

It is honestly scary but she will know the truth. It is normal to be scared of that but she will not do anything to u. Yes, she will feel bad, expect that but she won't do anything. Perhaps she will c her contribution to why u feel thus. So, ur fears are expected....

[OK_So_Here_I_Am_Now]

Wow, sorry to hear about the intrusion, that must feel like such a violation.

I don't know what's the right approach? How to best balance love and respect for a child? Parents care but often express it quite differently.

I wonder but will not look at my daughter's personal communication, we do talk about all things when she is ready. My wife? She wants to see more and that makes things predictably rough at time.

I love that you are mindful of a promise to your father. As a father, I have received that promise and honestly do not know if I would choose to go on if that was not fulfilled, I sincerely believe decades from now you will be at peace having kept it.

Be strong, looking for help and exploring ideas is nothing to be ashamed of, even if you are presently not able to articulate exactly what they mean to you when someone is putting words into you mouth.

[magicly_rose in reply to OK_So_Here_I_Am_Now]

thanks for the words. this is all just really freaking tough.. i'm going through a really rough patch in time. and as for my mom, she's kind of manipulative and borderline (perhaps fully?) abusive. emotionally, anyways. this whole situation is too much to handle but i still keep my promise to my father because i know he'd go right after me

[OK_So_Here_I_Am_Now in reply to magicly_rose]

I understand you might not buy in for the same reasoning but I am delighted by your choice .

I could identify additional likely similarities in my life ( I came here for my daughter and come back for both her and I after some self evaluation). However, identifying external factors of causation does not let me off the hook, ultimately I still need to take action so I trick myself through skipping that natural second step and get to work. It brings me a lot more peace and allows me to love other flawed folks in my orbit.

Yes, these are tough times and what seems to happen is that by continuing to hang in there, those times pass, I have seen and experienced that so many times I honestly believe that. Best of luck maintaining and finding a path to peace in this world.

[magicly_rose]

i'd open a new one but i'm afraid my mother would just find it. anything that slightly goes against her rules angers her and i don't know what to do