After some advice

[Readinggirl1]

Hey guys, I’m new here so not even sure I’m doing this right!

Hopefully I can get some advice for myself.

Me and my partner have lived in our own house for 4 years with 2 dogs that we both love. We are both on anti depression tablets her longer than me.

I found out the other day she had stopped taking her tablets because she thought she was better but noticed she was getting worse so went to go and get some more. Now the morning of the day she left she said she was going to get better and she was sorry for taking it out on me and it wouldn’t be long until we were back on holiday in our favourite place and that she loves me.

Thursday evening after she got her tablets she didn’t come home. Messaged Saying she can’t be with me as all she does it hurt me and she’s not what I need. She’s lost, broken, let’s everyone down, hurts everyone.

I’ve tried to be supportive and to tell her to take all the time she needs and she can come home whenever she wants and that I just want her to get better, I told her I wouldn’t leave her and I’ll be right by her if she needs me.

I know it’s only been a few days but she’s still staying she doesn’t know when she’s coming home and when she does she doesn’t want anything to do with me as we have split up.

This is really affecting me now. 1 second I think we will be ok and she just needs time, then another I’m thinking this is the end and we will have to sell our house etc, and these thoughts are breaking me, I can’t stop crying, the dogs know something is up and are moping around and then I feel bad on them, I just don’t know what to do.

I’ve spoken to a family member from her side and was just told she will come home when she’s ready.. like they are not really bothered? I don’t know, am I thinking too much into it? Does anyone have any good advice on how to keep myself calm.

Has anyone been through anything similar and had a good outcome where you and your partner have been ok afterwards? All I see online are bad stories of separating and I don’t think I could handle thinking about that yet.

Any advise would be massively appreciated

Thank you x

[Hidden]

Its so hard when we can't fix the people we love most. All we can do is hope for the best and pray. Pray for her peace of mind and that she will soon be able to see clearly once again. Emotions run high for us and make life difficult. We can't give up and come to a stop. We must keep moving forward. We all go through these times of heartache and we all, in time, heal if we can forgive. We all loose our way at different seasons. Waiting is always the hardest part. You can only do today. Praying for you and yours...

[Readinggirl1 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, patiently waiting. Today she said she might come and take the dogs out for a walk so if she turns up at least it’s a start x

[ciley in reply to Hidden]

HEAL IF WE CAN FORGIVE~ACT AS THO NOTHING HAD HAPPENED?

[Hidden in reply to ciley]

There comes a point in time that we must move on. I lost my sister in a boating accident in 1987. Do I act as though nothing happened? No...but I don't tell anyone about it either unless a conversation warrants it. Time has lessened the pain. I don't dwell on it. It does still effect my life and the choices I make but it has gotten easier. This is still new and fresh to her but in time she can forgive and reconcile or forgive and move on...depending on her partners choices.

[Readinggirl1]

Thank you, I’m trying to get her to ask for help but at the moment she thinks she can do it on her own x