Hey guys, I’m new here so not even sure I’m doing this right!
Hopefully I can get some advice for myself.
Me and my partner have lived in our own house for 4 years with 2 dogs that we both love. We are both on anti depression tablets her longer than me.
I found out the other day she had stopped taking her tablets because she thought she was better but noticed she was getting worse so went to go and get some more. Now the morning of the day she left she said she was going to get better and she was sorry for taking it out on me and it wouldn’t be long until we were back on holiday in our favourite place and that she loves me.
Thursday evening after she got her tablets she didn’t come home. Messaged Saying she can’t be with me as all she does it hurt me and she’s not what I need. She’s lost, broken, let’s everyone down, hurts everyone.
I’ve tried to be supportive and to tell her to take all the time she needs and she can come home whenever she wants and that I just want her to get better, I told her I wouldn’t leave her and I’ll be right by her if she needs me.
I know it’s only been a few days but she’s still staying she doesn’t know when she’s coming home and when she does she doesn’t want anything to do with me as we have split up.
This is really affecting me now. 1 second I think we will be ok and she just needs time, then another I’m thinking this is the end and we will have to sell our house etc, and these thoughts are breaking me, I can’t stop crying, the dogs know something is up and are moping around and then I feel bad on them, I just don’t know what to do.
I’ve spoken to a family member from her side and was just told she will come home when she’s ready.. like they are not really bothered? I don’t know, am I thinking too much into it? Does anyone have any good advice on how to keep myself calm.
Has anyone been through anything similar and had a good outcome where you and your partner have been ok afterwards? All I see online are bad stories of separating and I don’t think I could handle thinking about that yet.
Any advise would be massively appreciated
Thank you x