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“We are just talking” phase- you ALL know what I’m talking about

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Okay, we obviously need to have a serious conversation about this new thing called the “talking phase”. You know, that thing we do before we actually choose to date a person. It’s kinda like our safety net to back out of a relationship that might potentially be toxic, because we now a days have been emotionally scarred by past relationships because crap happens.

So here’s the thing. Men and women, Can we please all agree to just have a 30 to 60 day policy. Hear me out. No store is going to hold an item longer then 30 days, and won’t return past 60 days. Yet, we as people are willing to put the possible relationship on hold for waaaaaayyy longer because we don’t want to commit. What the heck is up with that???? I’m sorry, but we have lives to live and people to see. If you can’t even have an object put on hold for that long, do you really think you can put a living human being on hold for that long? Dude, if you are willing to put a person on hold for over 60 days then don’t even bother shopping for a relationship.

I know I’m using a lot of shopping metaphors and it sounds messed up right? Well, that’s my point. You shouldn’t treat people like a shopping item, and putting them on hold is doing just that. Either go for it or don’t. Stop this stupid immature crap of “we are just talking.” Doing that for a little while is understandable, but too long makes a person feel used. So, please just don’t do it.

-any thoughts or add on’s?

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Hi Rudolph. I agree that there comes a time I’m every life to go for it and get over the wall we have built for ourselves. That’s true not only for relationships but in many aspects of life. As for relationships, though, I’d caution against setting some kind of time limit on going to the next level. You’ll know if and when it’s right for you. If the other person doesn’t want to wait for you to get to that point they can always choose to move on. That’s happened to me. Sometimes moving on was the best thing. Other times I realized in retrospect that I had missed a great opportunity. Live and learn.......

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What I meant to say was “There comes a time in every life “. Sorry for the typing error :)

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