Had a breakdown at school

[Hb2003]

Hello not doing great at the moment finals are done so i am at home that girl i saw her and all those memories of what she has done to me came back i was so overwhelmed to the point where i was shaking and then crying I hated it so much i kept on saying sorry for crying

[langedechu]

this girl you write about... can you tell me what happened? why do you feel this way towards her, how did she hurt you? I'm here and will support you, and always just to help, never hurt. I hope you can feel better x

[Hb2003 in reply to langedechu]

That girl has done so much harm to me

[langedechu in reply to Hb2003]

physically or mentally?

[Hb2003 in reply to langedechu]

Mentally

[Zhangliqun]

Yes, what did this girl do?

[Hb2003 in reply to Zhangliqun]

She bullied me during freshman year she cursed at me and she did so much harm to me she sent me a email a week ago saying that her friend said that i talked crap about her and she said that her fiancé will set me straight

[langedechu in reply to Hb2003]

do you know her motives? this will help me understand the situation more on how all of this got started

[Hb2003 in reply to langedechu]

The whole story is that i was friends with her during freshman year then i told her that i am not friends with her anymore i gave her 2 chances she started to cuss at me spread rumors about me sophomore year same thing this year is different i don’t talk to her anymore but she decided to email me

[langedechu in reply to Hb2003]

i see. why did you say that you didn't want to be friends with her anymore? was she a bad influence on you or just wasn't good to be around?

[Hb2003 in reply to langedechu]

She was not good to be around she was being mean to me

[langedechu in reply to Hb2003]

okay. so if she continues to bully you, why do you take it to heart? I think you should just ignore her. think of it this way: you're better than her. she's just jealous and afraid. you are too good to fall for that and the only reason she bullies you is to get something out of you. if you stop showing a reaction and become confident, she'll feel less superior and eventually move on to someone else, right?

[Hb2003 in reply to langedechu]

But i am such a sensitive person and I hate it

[langedechu in reply to Hb2003]

i understand, trust me. you need someone, a friend, me, or a family member to make you realize that you're better than that and all of the things she tells you are just lies to make you get in your head.

[Hb2003 in reply to langedechu]

She was whispering and laughing

[langedechu in reply to Hb2003]

so? understand here, that your purpose is to be the best YOU. not someone else. so if that girl doesn't like who you are TRULY, she doesn't deserve to have a part in your life.

[Zhangliqun in reply to Hb2003]

Did/does she try to physically harm you?

[Hb2003 in reply to Zhangliqun]

Nope she hasn’t thankfully

[ash0786]

well you made it through finals. that is an accomplishment. Perhaps you are male? Sometimes i think it is harder for men to cry due to false societal expectations. there is nothing wrong with crying and you don’t have to apologize for it. Wishing you peace and love.

[Hb2003 in reply to ash0786]

I am female 😊 i feel like i should apologize

[teen_anxiety]

I have had the same thing happen to me. one thing you should know is as long as you do your part they will soon grow out of it.

[teen_anxiety in reply to teen_anxiety]

also you should know that in the future this is not gonna matter

[teen_anxiety in reply to teen_anxiety]

sorry, my responses are so cliche but they are true.

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Do you have a report system in school where you can report this girl? Is there any therapy available for you through school? Sorry for the questions but I do think the school need to know and also therapy is a good way to go.

Thinking of you xx

[Hb2003 in reply to Hidden]

No you don’t have to apologize i used to do therapy but i missed so many sessions that she stopped my social worker is going to find me a new therapist.I don’t know if I should do therapy at school ..

[Hidden in reply to Hb2003]

I do think therapy is the way to go but it sounds like you didnt gel with your original therapist and this isn't your fault, I didnt gel with one a few years ago. Can you report this girl, she's reating you appallingly. Yiu are so much better than her xx

[Hb2003 in reply to Hidden]

That is true i don’t want to report her because then more drama will ensue

[Hidden in reply to Hb2003]

I understand what you are saying. I think that coping strategies are the way forward then i.e. therapy, practising your own therapy i.e. working on your mind. I bought a book to help with my Emetophobia (fear of being sick) and it's an excellent programme, here's the link below, I'm hoping you'll be able to get something like this where you are.

thriveprogramme.org/

The Emetophobia book I had asked you to write down positives every single day and focus on them throughout the day. I'm hoping that something like this will help you, it really does make sense.

Take care and I really hope that you do find something to help you.

Alicia xx