Why is finding friendship so hard!

[gnsbao13]

I just finished my third year of college and I have yet to make a single friend. I feel so pathetic because I get jealous of my sister because she has so many friends. The three friends I do have I share with my sister and I speak to them once every couple weeks MAYBE. I can’t help but feel so lonely. My sister has zoom parties with her friends to celebrate holidays/birthdays and I am constantly sitting in the background wishing that I could have that. I try to keep myself occupied because I don’t have any connections like that in my life. I get so scared that it will always be like this. What happens when I get married or I hit a huge milestone in my life? I am going to have NOBODY there to celebrate with me. Am I really that repulsive to be around? I am started to think so.

[Windsorgardener5087]

What thoughts go on in our heads makes us our own worst enemy🙁 I have learned to risk putting myself out to join various groups of like minded people and volunteer time for vulnerable people. The easiest thing to get started is to invite people you would like know better, to share a table with you. This could just be coffee or a meal. If you don't expect these meetings to develop immediately into friendships, you will be pleasantly surprised if they do.There is truth in the saying, to have friends is to be one 🤔

[sweetiepye]

It sounds like a lack of self- confidence to me . As you have more life experience you will gain self assurance and the problem will resolve . In the mean time lean on your sister and practice on her friends . They are not exclusive to her . Don't take yourself quite so seriously . You will be fine I promise you. Pam.

[FearIsALiar]

I feel the same way! I barely have any friends, everyone went separate ways after highschool and everyone’s kinda busy with their own lives now. Plus it’s not easy making friends during a pandemic 😷

[FearIsALiar in reply to FearIsALiar]

Finishing your third year of college is a HUGE accomplishment! Awesome job 😊