Sit !

[gerrerd]

relax

[Shnookie]

Hello mon Ami. C’est Shnookie. It is very important to acknowledge one’s emotions whatever type they are. Since I have ADHD, sometimes my emotions R enhanced and I can physically feel their presence in my body. It can be physically draining as well. I however Will not stop going on with my life. Hugs 🤗 M

[gerrerd in reply to Shnookie]

Notice how you feel in your body. it reacts to bad vibes etc ! only pursue that which makes you feel good xx

[Shnookie in reply to gerrerd]

In an ideal world this would be perfect. And when I can capture that emotion I can feel a huge smile 😊 come across my face. Those I definitely keep close to my heart. But when the sad emotions come on I process them and move them to a box that I keep shut

[completely-zero654]

How can one relax when you have so much worry on your mind? Please tell me that.😢

[Shnookie in reply to completely-zero654]

Hi this is Shnookie. I totally understand what U mean. This has been the most hellacious year in my life. I’m 62 and last year I was working as a caregiver for my client of 2 years with severe dementia. I became depressed and anxiety ridden and went on disability 2019. The idea was to stop working, let my body heal and get into

something else. COVID hit, my cousin who was helping me pay my rent but was also hit

financially by

COVID. My assistance has gone from

$2000 a month to 500 a month which means that I can only pay a small part of my

Rent and there R other things as well. I’m lucky ☺️ to have this support group, close friends, a good sychiatrist, social worker

Job counselor and some close family members. It is hard as hell. As I’m texting U

my stomach is burning after eating

watermelon and I take Pepcid and Nexium.

I’m working part-time and today Saturday I’ve been on the couch all day. BUT I’m not going to feel sorry 4 myself. Tonight I watch

my shows on Animal Planet which relax me

and tomorrow back back looking for full time jobs and cleaning the house. Try to learn cognitive therapy it can help U break down some of your worsens and not make everything seem so catastrophic. Trust me this isn’t always easy 2 do and neurotic at times is my middle name. But I push forward and dig deep inside of me and think how it was for my ancestors especially my father a Holocaust survivor to come to the

U.S. then I can get thru this. I’m always here 4 U. Hugs 🤗 Shnookie

[gerrerd in reply to completely-zero654]

Well do something about it, train your mind to see things differently. It just doesnt happen on its own ! you have to work at it every day of your life !

[completely-zero654 in reply to gerrerd]

It is all very well for you to say this, it is not as easy as you may think, if you had all the problems I have then just maybe you would change your attitude.

[Dolphin14 in reply to completely-zero654]

I'm coming out of a lifetime of problems that escalated over 5 years ago. All of us here have issues to overcome.We are the only ones that can fix this. It takes dedicated daily hard work.

If you put the time in you will see the benefit. It's baby steps with lots of ups and downs.

But, it can be done.

I hope you get there. Don't give up or give in.

[gerrerd in reply to Dolphin14]

Very good advice, my friend xx

[Dolphin14 in reply to gerrerd]

Ty

You and I both know there is no instant cure for this.

It's work, work, work every day

Hope you are well. Stay safe and take care

[gerrerd in reply to Dolphin14]

Yes thanks, you too xx

[gerrerd in reply to completely-zero654]

Have a look at my profile,

[completely-zero654 in reply to gerrerd]

Hello. yes I have looked at your profile, you have also been through a very rough time and have read books to help you "get by", but if one can not be bothered or afford books on "help" and do not trust anyone, also people say "do something about it", I do not have time or the concentration to look at books to train my mind, or take small steps.

My life is full of things going wrong, people who are estranged from me, neighbour who has caused havoc night and day for myself and husband who is unwell, I am coping with my disability (not severe) but causes untold pain so am on 20 odd tablets day/night, Morphine to top up then try to manage everything after trying to rest at night on a worn out chair, my husband on a worn out settee. Get out of it at 03:45 as my husband can not sleep, then it is the same old thing day in and day out. My husband hates where we live, my fault, I was kept away from my dear mum when in hospital for the last time, 2013, since then my step father and step sister who I saw born have ignored me for something I do not know of, I should have been with my mum when she fell asleep but nobody bothered letting me know, had a phone call from her husband later in the afternoon he couldn't even knock on my door and tell me, he passes by when going into the nearest town.

So many things that have and are happening, and all I get is read books etc., it will not work with me so I have to keep fighting my way through life when all I need is to cry myself to sleep and can not even do that without being disturbed.

So what is the answer to this please?

[gerrerd in reply to completely-zero654]

I used tape programs. just pressed play, was too depressed to move ! lying in bed months just let the message go into my subconscious day and night until I came out of it, many times. eventually the subconscious got the message and things improved little by little, still working on myself now 5 th decade now xx

[Agora1 in reply to gerrerd]

WOW Gerrerd, same story as me. I listen to a tape that a therapist gave me 20 years ago. Over and over again and I still find times that I find new things on it.

My subconscious mind has soaked in each and every word and like gerrerd, things

improved for me and brought me to where I am today. xx