Emotional blow outs

I find it really difficult not to feel angry towards things and people, and often find myself thinking I have it under control, just for it to manifest further down the line. Lots of tears and shouting yet I cant back down even though I know I'm in the wrong and could stop it by changing my mindset. Its exhausting. It would be helpful to hear how others have coped or helped themselves become less reactive.

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Hi and welcome to a supportive group! As far as getting mad towards other people, I have to keep telling myself that we can't control how others act. The only thing we can control is how we do. Can you clarify the "being angry at things" part? An example that comes to mind is being angry for missing the bus. Would this be an example of what you mean?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yes I agree and find it extremely difficult to control how I react especially when it concerns family/a loved one. Being angry at thing not working properly when they are designed to make our lives easier..for example laptops/software/etc

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hi. I hear you. Can you try counting to 10 before you react? Or excuse yourself and go for a walk, etc?

[Hatelife34]

I to feel the same I am so angry at how I let ppl treat me and how I put myself in situations am that cause me to be so traumatized😞

[FriendlyDude]

From my perspective, it’s a lot easier to react and get into a heated situation if you’re under a lot of stress/pain, or if there’s simply a lot going on. If you can find your calm/happy place, I think that could help a lot When I’m feeling good, taking care of my needs and in my happy place, it’s so much easier to remain calm MUSIC is such an amazing thing, it works wonders to my heart and mind I encourage you to find your calm/happy place (if you haven’t already) and then practice utilizing it in your everyday life taking some time out of your day just to be in your happy place is super healthy on the mind

A calm and happy attitude,

reduces anger’s magnitude

I hope that helps I wish you the best!

[Hidden in reply to FriendlyDude]

Thanks, very helpful! I havent found that instant happy place I can go to when I find myself in difficult situation...I tend to either overreact or completely avoid by not reacting at all...which comes out later. Otherwise exercising helps me a lot but that's only possible at certain time of the day/when scheduled! Or being in the countryside helps but I need to find a way to deal with emotions in the moment.

[Southwestsunshine]

I get mad at people for not attending to my needs but expecting me to attend to theirs. I get really angry and then I break down and cry.

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Yeah I get that especially when other people buy me gifts that I havent asked for...I cant help feel like I owe them or that they will expect me to give back somehow later and will get upset if I forget or dont reciprocate.