I need support, i’m at my weakest point!

[Thealchemist99]

My bf and i broke up. We fight like each week. And it was draining my power and energy! We broke up because i’ve been working for 12 hours straight and been really stressed. He said something that bothered me and i showed him that i was bothered, he didn’t care and hung up on me. He tried to make up by sending a text rather than calling but i was really hurt because this was not his first time. Am i selfish for being hurt? Am i selfish for wanting his support through my dark days even if it meant not giving him much care?

[Sillysausage234]

Sleep on it maybe

[langedechu]

hello, i'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend. he sounds pretty toxic to me but of course you know him better than I do. i honestly think that you'd be better off without him, it seems like when you were together he wasn't helping your mentality much. and the fact that he tried apologizing through text is kind of pathetic (sorry, bf), and he probably only did that to make you want him even more. and it wasn't the first time either. i don't know why you kept with this dude, he really wasn't good for you. you're definitely not selfish for being hurt, the fact that he couldn't accept your opinion and feelings is just a display of his pride and arrogance. and you're not selfish for wanting his support through rough times either. if you didn't give him much care, so be it. he should be there for YOU and help YOU because he shouldn't have expected anything back. nothing. nada. my advice to you is to find someone who can truly support and accept what you're going through, and someone who can help you work through it instead of leaving. if you would ever like to talk, feel free to dm me or make another post. sending love x

[Elle_Luv]

You’re emotions are always valid. Emotions are a normal bodily response to something we experience. It’s like your body telling you “this isn’t good”. I would try to communicate with him on your needs, and ask him what his are. But this takes work and you both need to be willing to put that work in. If you’re both willing to adapt to the others healthy needs, and willing to put in the work. That’s how I would approach it, but do what works for you!

[Hidden]

Being hurt is an emotion we feel when others wrong us. That’s not selfish.

Selfish means you are or wanting to concentrate on your own advantage or well-being without regard for another person. If this is what you are wanting to do, then in my opinion, yes this being selfish.