Fear of losing loved ones

[Chocoholic_18_x]

I’m almost 18 and I’m starting to become absolutely terrified of growing up. All the responsibilities I have, moving away from home (even though I don’t want to just yet)... but one I’m absolutely terrified of is losing my parents! I’m so close to them but I’m so scared of losing them, they are the people I’m closest to. As cringey as it may sound, my parents have been my best friends and still are my best friends. Though I have my handful of friends I do things with, my parents are always there for me when I don’t have any friends. I love my mum and dad so much! And I know that we all have to die at some point, it’s a part of life, but I just feel there would be no point in going on without them, life would never be the same! But I don’t want to be worrying about this, especially since they are both perfectly healthy and I’m only 17 and I shouldn’t be worrying about this, it just makes me so depressed and sad all the time. What should I do?

[FriendlyDude]

Enjoy the time you have with them now and even when you move out, you can try to live close to them so you can visit whenever you want to! My sister moved out quite a few months ago, but she comes by pretty often. She comes every Sunday, and she comes over on Fridays to watch the Mandalorian and The Great British Baking show with us. If we have meals that she really wants, she’ll come by for dinner sometimes 😂 and she comes for special occasions too like holidays, birthdays, etc.So basically, even if you move out, it doesn’t mean you’re totally separated from your parents, you can talk with them about visiting, and you can text/call them too.

As for growing up, I get what you mean. I am 18 and once I graduate, ahhhhh... 😂 responsibilities galore! Guess we just gotta take it one step at a time. Growing up is part of life. Best not to worry about the whole future all at once, just focus on one or a couple things at a time. What’s important for you to do in the present? What’s coming up in the next few months that you need to prepare for? Basically, if it’s too much to think about all the different responsibilities you’re gonna have, try narrowing it down, and then expand as you get comfortable.

I wish you the best hope something helped!

[Agora1]

Hi Chocoholic, (boy, that should be my second username) lol

If we are lucky and blessed to have great parents, the fear of losing them starts

at a young age. Do you remember being little and being in a store and worrying

what would happen to you if you lost your mom. Who would take care of you, who

could ever love you like they do?

Then when you become 18, it's a different kind of loss you worry about. You still need

them, we all need our parents in our lives for as long as we can have them. By focusing

on the fear of losing them, you are robbed of the many days you have ahead of you.

After all, these will be the days that you will cherish when the time comes. Your memories

will afford you to be who they taught you to become.

My suggestion to you is to let your parents know how much you love and care for them.

Do special things for each one that brings a smile to their face. This is what you should focus

on each day, what you have in your life right now. The future is not guaranteed for any of us,

the past is just that. All we have is today, this moment in time. This is what counts and this

is what we should think about.

Never allow negativity to take over your life. Think of all the positives in each day and remind yourself that you are blessed. Be Happy xx

[Dubba61]

Hi, it's so lovely, that you Love your parents so very much. I felt the same at your age and was lucky enough to still have a Mum, when I was 61 years old! I'm a little older now and miss parents very much. But, when i think of the great times we had, look at my photographs, and remember them, it is with a smile on my face. Make good memories, treat them well (I know you do), and when your a little older, take them on some fun days out. As my Children now do, for me. I believe much of life is about making happy memories. So try not to worry about the future, and enjoy the present. 👍🧓