Abusive Parents Follow Up

[Elle_Luv]

About a week ago, I made a post talking about my abusive father. I was recently kicked out of a lover’s appartment and felt like i had nowhere to go but home. I was under intense emotional distress and my depression was spiraling out of control. After my attempt, it caused a lot of stress on my family and me. Even after my attempt, my dad and i were fighting constantly, and escalating. I decided to leave and stay with a friend for the week, before i left i was sitting in the garage, completely hopeless and distraught and my dad came out. At this point, we both had honest and calm discussions, we eventually reached discussions and problem solving solutions, and that was our first discussion that we both handled well. We both remained calm and communicated our feelings. I still thought it was best to give us soace after the recent chaos. That week we had our second family therapist session. The session was split into two private sessions, so we were able to communicate in privacy and confidentiality. I returned home this weekend and I saw dramatic improvements in my Dad’s behavior. He had a habit of barging into my room while I was sleeping in the past, and also getting upset with me for sleeping in, but that morning he was SO respectful. He just gently tapped on my door until i woke up, i wasn’t alarmed and he let my cat in. I slept in until around 1 pm, and he just asked if i was up late and if i was getting up soon. When i came down he had even made pancakes! Which is bringing tears to my eyes right now because i cant even remember the last time he made breakfast. I immediately went and told him how thankful i was for his changes, and i helped him a little with his work in the garage, he wanted me to stay longer but really I think he was just lonely. My Dad wouldn’t have made the efforts to change unless he no longer got what he wanted. When I left, and he realized I wasn’t coming back, he started making efforts to change. He agreed to therapy and has been attending sessions. My stepmom even told me he loves the therapist and the therapist helped him realize that i had a mood disorder that makes my life more difficult.