What helps you move past ruminating thoughts? I’m running out of tools I know that have worked in the past, and I feel myself slipping down that rabbit hole again.
Ruminating thoughts: What helps you... - Anxiety and Depre...
Ruminating thoughts
I find that good things and good thoughts are weapons against bad thoughts in general. For me, when I’m not feeling good, bad thoughts are harder to kick out. But when I feel good, the bad thoughts have less power and I can kick ‘em out with a mere flick! (It’s not always that easy, but yes, the better I feel, the easier it is to maintain good thoughts and keep the bad ones out). I’d simply suggest, though it can be really hard, to do your best to take care of yourself. Make sure you’re doing things that make you truly happy, stay healthy, and just do your best. Believe in yourself! A great way to feel good (and get rid of bad thoughts) is to help others as well.
I believe in you! I wish you the best!
You are right; my ruminations increase while my self care decreases. I’m hopeful I can be more mindful to help me “climb back out” before I feel worse. Thank you for the pep talk; you are a very friendly dude. 😊😂
Positive vibes! I try to look at the bright side regardless of how bad things get. Sometimes I still have episodes where I'm just down and out, but a positive mindset has truly helped me. It is what it is and you can't change it, so make the most of it!
Whoa, I’m sorry for your loss. Nov 27 is my sister’s bday! That’s a crazy coincidence
I hope you feel better soon!
As the others said, replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Also, acknowledge the bad thoughts and then dismiss them. If they pop back again, dismiss them again. Try not to let them hold your attention.
The best way to get your head out of the past is to do an activity in the present. But I'm not very good at that!
I love the quote and picture, by the way! Thanks for sharing it!
Thanks. Sounds like a mindfulness almost meditative accept & redirect practice. I like it!
I’m struggling with this as well!!
Keeping yourself busy or learning a new hobby can do wonders!
I'm sorry that your slipping. I try my best to do something else when I feel myself slipping, but I'm not always successful. More often than not I fall asleep (one of my coping mechanisms). My husband helps a lot here with getting me out ( although sometimes he's not successful). It is really hard. Make sure to drink plenty of water and eat healthy. My husband is on a low carb diet and I'm trying my best to join him for support. We have both noticed positive affects on our mood. Do you have any hobbies or things that you enjoy doing?
I love the quote, btw. The rent analogy is great!
Thank you for sharing. I am engaging in hobbies I enjoy and spend a lot of time with daughter which does help. Some days are better than others.
You're welcome! Yep, I hear you there! Not every day is going to go well and that is normal. It doesn't stop those down days from being uncomfortable, though.😔
I’m so sorry you are dealing with such a difficult situation; sad anniversaries are the absolute worst on our mental health. I’m here if you ever want to chat.
Thank you for the ideas; I’ve done some dbt work but not cbt, so I will check that out.
As far as removing the toxic people that are not good for my healing - which is one of my ruminating thoughts btw - is something I think I have to accept that I can’t control with physically distance right now. (Working on mentally and emotionally detaching though)
That was so sweet of your dad; I would have been bawling my eyes out. I’m sorry you feel like your brother has been forgotten by some; I know that hurts. I’ve never lost a sibling (lost both my parents sadly); I can’t say that I know exactly what you’re going through, but I’m here to listen and virtual hug.
The letter writing and journaling is very therapeutic for me. Thank you for the reminder that I should do that more.
Hugs!
I am struggling so badly with rumination. I practice mindfulness meditations, and am very very slowly but surely getting better. Before I could only meditate for 2 minutes max before the bad thoughts start up but now I can go a full 7 minutes. Before I could not listen to a whole song without going into rumination hell, but now I can listen to a couple of songs.
So it's still a struggle, but I think I am slowly moving in the right direction. Self-harm during rumination has greatly diminished as well. I was motivated to do better after I almost blinded myself by accidentally punching my eye.
I’m happy for you that the self harm is diminishing. This can be such a hellish battle as times.
Music is such a trigger for me right now. I have to skip through a lot of my playlist some times because certain songs cause really intense overwhelming emotions. I’ve been rocking out to the Disney Pandora station and Christmas music lately lol. It’s mostly fun and safe.
Yes, please stay away from anything that triggers you. Disney/Christmas music sounds like a good bet! Have you watched the romantic comedy Last Christmas? It features lots of George Michael songs. I was able to watch half of it before my mind wandered into my personal hell.
What I was trying to say is that you might like the movie because of the Christmas theme. The main character works in a Christmas ornament shop.