Lightning strikes twice

[cogenengineer]

I am new and this is my first post. I am a 30 year survivor of Hodgkins lymphoma. Was diagnosed Stage 2A at 16. Went through radiation therapy and came out OK. Went to college, studied engineering and met my first wife. We had a daughter and when she was 3 my wife was diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer. She survived, but our marriage didn't. My current wife and I have a son and when he was 8 she was diagnosed with MS. She's been suffering with symptoms for a long time and went untreated until she went blind in her left eye. She suffers from addiction, ADHD and now all the horrible crap that some with RRMS, including acute anxiety and depression. I am a struggling caregiver again and finding it very hard to cope with my situation. I am finding it very difficult to not be angry about my situation and not take it out on my wife and family. I am looking for a support group for spouses facing similar challenges. I have also heard that AA is also a great resource. Quality mental health services are very hard to find in southern CA where I am located unless you have a lot of time and money. My wife doesn't want to go to counseling anymore. Any advice from someone who has experience with being a struggling caregiver for a very wonderful, but tormented soul would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you

[Agora1]

Hi cogenengineer and Welcome. I just saw your post now. You coined that right in that Lightening has struck twice and I'm so sorry. It sounds like you won over your own serious

illness only to become a caregiver once again. I will admit that caring for someone 24/7 can

eventually produce some anger due to the stress and wearing effect on the mind and body.

AA is a twelve step program that many support groups are based on. You might start there

with a call to see what they may recommend. You definitely need to get the support you need as well as interact with others going through the same thing. We can support you

emotionally anytime 24/7. What's nice about the twelve step programs is that you can

usually exchange phone numbers to call in a crisis when things get just too overwhelming.

We will be here for you as well. This is a safe site and a caring one. I wish you luck in finding

a support group. I wish your wife well, she is blessed to have you xx