Exhausting week

[SleepySnow]

My mother just had a stroke a few days ago and I have been completely spread thin making sure that she is okay, getting the care she needs, keeping my elderly sick father’s needs met, cleaning, working, and keeping up with school work. I felt like I handled it like a pro, the house was spotless, everyone seemed as happy as possible and I was handling my anxiety and stress pretty well.

When picking up my mother from the hospital to come home for the first time in 4 days, I came home to my father only complaining about how I didn’t do enough for him because I didn’t change his sheets on the bed. I would have happily done so if he had asked but I didn’t hear a word out of him. He’s actually been ignoring me since I called him out on throwing an ashtray at my mother. I then began to hear that I am a useless excuse for a daughter and that I have no reason to be stressed or upset about any of this. Dealing with knowing my mom had a stroke is emotionally enough for me, forget getting told that I’m not doing enough. I have nothing to say about this other than I’m just really upset and sad. He’s usually pretty understanding with me which is why this is such a shock.

[Shnookie]

I’m so sorry 😐 that U R going thru this. Do U have any relatives or friends to the house and help U or can U afford a caregiver occasionally. I was the sole caregiver of my mom who

Had stage 4 pancreatic cancer diagnosed in September 2014 and she died in January 2016. Tho me and my mom were best friends, it was very challenging. What

concerns me very much is wot father’s behavior is he on any meds ? I was a caregiver to elderly people with dementia

but your father throwing objects like ashtrays at your ashtray could be consisted a type of elder abuse. U also don’t deserved. To be abused as well

Good luck I’m in your corner

Hugs 🤗 S

[Hidden]

You are doing a great job of being there for your family, especially your mother, that’s a lot of stress for you and you are handling it like a pro. Don’t let his negativity get you down.

I feel for you. My experience helping when my sister had West Nile virus, meningitis, insefolitis... I was helping out the way you are now and my family, my other sisters, never remembered to talk to me. They would ask after the patient and that’s it. Us caregivers get forgotten even when we are giving our all.

Hang in there! You got this!