She was 27, plump and beautiful to the world around her. But, to herself she was average when wearing her own skin, and extraordinary when wearing another's. So, she did plays since she was 7, and loved the life on the stage because it was a safe cocoon from reality. For the moment she stepped onto the stage she knew that eventually the curtains would drop and the scene would end.
Little did she know that once off the stage, theatrical attire was regarded as "unwise" to wear in the public but only for women, and especially if it cosplayed an animal. Why? Because it was looked upon sensually by men and could give men the "wrong idea." Yet, men could do the same thing and it would be regarded as funny or cute. But, she was an artist, and considered her cosplay to be another expression of art. Even more so, she considered it to be an expression of herself and talent.
So, why do I speak of this women? Because this women is me. I love to cosplay, especially as different animals. No, I don't do it every day but I attempt to create a new character, or mimic a new character once every few months or so. I do it when I'm bored and feel an artistic urge. I love to see if I can pull off the perfect cosplay, and I love to challenge myself to create new characters. However, because of the fact that I'm a women, and I'm considered an attractive one. It is looked down upon and considered to be "advertising the wrong message to men." Even though my clothes our modest and my poses are cute, my body alone makes the statement that I'm trying to look sensual and allure men in a snare. It doesn't matter that this isn't my intent in the least. It doesn't matter that I want people, both men and women, to look at my art expression and view it as a just a beautiful work of art. All that matters is some people consider it wrong, and only because I'm an attractive women dressed up in the cosplay of a fox. I bet a majority of you just read that and thought to yourself; well, of course a women dressed as a fox is sexualized. Yet, I guarantee if I said an attractive man was dressed as a fox you would not scrutinize it in the same fashion, if at all.
My loving father approached me the other day in concern after I had cosplayed as Holo the Wise Wolf from Spice and Wolf. I was dressed in a long sleeve purple sweater, black jeans and boots with a scarf tied around my waist and sash holding "wheat" around my neck. Two fluffy orange ears puffed out from either side of my long hair, and big fluffy tale; which mirrored the color of my ears, hung clumsily attached to my back. The only piece of the cosplay I was missing, was the ruby red apple eyes Holo possessed. To me, this was a work of art. I had the look almost completely down. But, to my father, he was gravely concerned about my appearance and me posting photos of my work on social media. He was afraid it would grab the wrong kind of attention.
Do not miss understand me. I know my father's intentions are good, and I understand why he was concerned. But, it bothered me that he felt that because of how some men are, I shouldn't express this part of myself to the public. I'm an artist in every way, shape, and form. It bothers me that something I love doing is taken out of context and I am made to feel that since men already view me as a sexual object, I must refrain from being too beautiful, or cosplaying in order to prevent men from stumbling. I hate that its made out to be my fault, even though I am only doing what women love to do; which is to look and feel beautiful. Beautiful to me is not something that needs to be sexualized. Beautiful to me is equivalent to watching a perfect sunset. It takes your breath away and gives one reason to keep on living to see the next day. Beautiful is when you have a flawed canvas and you still make it express something that means the world to its viewers. Beautiful is when you're being yourself, and expressing it for the world to see so they too may be inspired to be the rare beauty that they are.
I learned a long time ago that it doesn't matter if I am dressed as the most modest person in the world. Some men will always sexualize me because of two simple truths. I have a nice rack and ass. I wish I could say this with pride, but in all honesty, I can't help but say it with a hint of disgust. Why? Because so often men have made it clear that is all they see. So, in my mind. If men are going to act like this either way with me, then I should at least be allowed the freedom to be myself and do what I want to express myself and my artistic abilities.
Should I not at least be permitted that right?