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Where to find the strength and hope

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I’m trying to make it through each day....I want to be there for my kids. I feel I am not able to even ‘be there’ for them because of my depression and feeling of despair and hopelessness. I feel so low, and scared for the future of son’s condition . I can’t face the pain. I don’t know how to move forward anymore

I know there’s been so many people who have reached out since I posted a few days also, and I want to thank you all.

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goldieoldie

hello,I,m sorry that you are still feeling low and depression not lifting ,your sons condition can be managed, and you are torturing yourself uneccesarily....My nephew developed (scizophrenia) as a result of cannabis)that was many years ago and his marriage fell apart;you must try not to blame yourself...You will find the courage to move forward,we all get stuck at certain times in our life and some never know how to move forward,I was (and still am part of a vicious circle)and I have no one to relate to,except H.U.,and its a case of getting on and letting the anxiety and pain go,it takes time and practise,and My sister also has spent the best part of her life in mental hospital ,she managed to get by ,though as we age we kind of get stuck ,;thats what Im trying to avoid as its detrimental to our welll-being;everyday I feel stressed ,but at least IM not so bad as I was approximately2yrs ago.you have your family to care for you and vice versa,please do not give up

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Quest4peace in reply to goldieoldie

Thank you for your genuine concern and for sharing your personal struggle , as well as the experience of your loved ones having been through this severe illness

You’re right, I am torturing myself...

I’m trying to focus on two things you said:

1) My son’s condition can be managed.

2)please do not give up

Doctor told me because of my son’s age (17), it can potentially be a worse outcome if it does turn out to be schizophrenia. That is because the brain has many more years of growing to do, and that the impact of this illness can partially be determined by that. He didn’t say always, so I’m trying to hold on to hope.

Thanks again For reaching out

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bonkers65 in reply to Quest4peace

I hope things get better for you and your son.

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Quest4peace in reply to bonkers65

Thank you. I really appreciate that

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Quest4peace

Thank you very much

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Quest4peace

So true and I thank you deeply

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terriltwin2

I am so sorry for your struggle. I know our children are the most precious creations and gifts to us. We worry and wonder when will they be well. I have a son who has been a drug and sex addict for years. I ask God , when will it stop? Why? Have you reached out to a support group for what you are going through? It's so easy for us mom's to get down and depressed and a support group has really helped me know I am not alone. Other parents will encourage you and pray for you and also you can get some good resources and tips from others going through the same things . I will be praying that God's healing hands will touch you and your son. I have a toll free number I would love to pass along to you . It is FREE of charge and you can speak with a trained counselor and they can give you some amazing resources. Just message me if you would like it and I will be happy to pass it along.

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Quest4peace in reply to terriltwin2

Thank you so much for reaching out. I messaged you and would really welcome that number. I’m so desperate for help.

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Shivedita

Within you. Your strength is within you which is yelling inside that yes, you have to recover soon and take care of your children and cherish time with them. Don't overstress about anything as of now, just take needed steps to recover from this condition. Your children are very brave and just want you to get well soon.

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SuZQ154

SO glad you are being honest and open. That is the first step to getting better! Also, so sorry you are going through this! I just read another post similar to yours and my response will be similar to you.

When my 24 year marriage was falling apart partly due to my ex's infidelity, I used "Fake it until you make it!" sometimes it was all I could do to get through the day. That same strategy offers me HOPE when I am going through a tough time today! In the past, pretending I felt OK worked for me, so when I am going through a NEW tough time, I believe it will work again. My strategy usually includes a devotional, prayer, exercise, good nutrition and sleep, talking to trusted loved ones and professionals, and journaling, along with a "to DO" list.

Everyone has different strategies! Maybe part of mine will help you. We are here to support one another!! Blessings and prayers to you today!!

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Quest4peace in reply to SuZQ154

Thank you so much for responding. You offer very good advice and I’m trying to do much of what you suggest ...so difficult for me to just put one foot fwd right now. I must if I am to survive. Thank you again

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SuZQ154 in reply to Quest4peace

You can do it! You are on the right track! Please know there is HOPE! Blessings and prayers this morning!

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Quest4peace in reply to SuZQ154

Thanks for the support and prayers. I wish you the same for you and your son. Would like to keep in touch with you on here:-)

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SuZQ154 in reply to Quest4peace

Good morning! Just touching base to see how you are doing!

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Quest4peace in reply to SuZQ154

Good morning to you too! I’m doing ok , hanging in there for my son and daughter . ... my son is starting to respond to medication and is coming out of his psychosis, so that’s a positive sign. Looking forward to speaking with his psychiatrist tomorrow. thank you so much for checking in. How are you doing?

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SuZQ154 in reply to Quest4peace

Thanks for asking! Good! It seems the less focused I am on me, and the more I stay focused on how I can serve others...the better I feel! It sounds like you are doing that too! So happy to hear about your son!! Blessings to you!

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