Enough?

[RosieSun]

I never feel like enough. Growing up no matter how hard I tried I was never great at sports, I was only good. The guys I liked always choose some other girl over me. in high school i was second in my class, which I was happy with, until they used our sat scores to calculate top 10 and I got bumped down to third. I was never pretty enough, smart enough, or athletic enough, at-least that’s how it’s always felt. It feels like everything that I don’t exceed all expectations in is another thing I’m not good enough at. It feels like there is no reason to try at anything because I already know I’m gonna be crappy at it. I just wish I didn’t have the burden of those memories weighing me down. I think I would have more confidence and a better self image if I didn’t have those moments in the back of my head.

[Agora1]

Hi RosieSun, we all need time to become who we are suppose to be.

Don't allow your high school years to determine who you are.

I too was shy, introverted, not athletic and never had a date in high school.

I hung around with girls who were like me and didn't realize I could change.

It wasn't until I started working that I started blossoming into a more outgoing me. As I learned to develop self esteem also came more confidence. With these attributes came

more social interaction. So RosieSun, don't be hard on yourself, give yourself time to be in the real world and leave the past in the past. xx

[FearIsALiar]

After reading many of your posts we seem a lot alike! Feels like I’m reading exactly how I feel. I always felt like guys always chose the prettier girls over me and that ruined my self confidence. I never felt enough. I wish things weren’t based on looks so much. I take care of myself but I’m not pretty enough it seems for anyone !

[ashlynn8]

i relate to you so much. i haven’t been addressing these problems till recently, but i really think my sense of feeling not good enough ever is my biggest issue in life. i don’t know what the solution is, though i’m trying to find a therapist, but know you aren’t alone and you are enough. i know it’s hard to not compare yourselves to others but i think that’s a big part of feeling this way, especially in the age of social media. sending love your way 💞

[EuroJoy]

You have been wonderfully created and so don't allow yourself to be compared with any one else. Because you are you. And nobody can do that better. You have your journey in life and no one else's. I am speaking also from my own experience it is just best to consciously leave the past behind in order to experience the wonderful freedom and continue forward with whatever you have been blessed with. Whether it is less or more (talent or otherwise), the issue starts only once we start comparing ourselves. Remember you are unique.

[Hidden]

Your feelings and thoughts mirror my own. I entered kindergarten full of happiness, and eager to start school. I carried this attitude through 1st and 2nd grades. Then I went down the proverbial hill as things got worse and worse at home, and were echoed at school as I went downhill there, too. I was a scratching post and a laugh and even hated. No, I am not imagining it happened. Nothing I did since then succeeded. Nothing. Well, you get the idea. I am sorry you have also gone through so much in your life, too. I get it. I read once of a young man who was constantly bullied all through school, all through college, but finally started a successful career. Someone asked him how he survived the merciless bullying and went on to live a good life. He said that when he was put down, called terrible names, "I just didn't believe them." Would be nice everything could be healed that way. I wish I could meet you and get together at Starbucks for coffee and mutual give-and-take of conversation to build each other up, exchange what is working toward getting better, and just be friends who have a common situation to heal. Keep trying!