This isn’t fair. I’m stupid. I hate life. I’m so dumb. I don’t deserve anything. Why is it so hard? I’m a horrible person. I suck as a mother. I’m lazy. No one likes me. I’m the worst.
These are the thoughts in my head that WONT STOP.
Currently struggling and feeling soo alone 
It's hard bc you make it hard for yourself.
We are our own worst critics.
What you say to yourself about yourself is all lies. Who you are, are not your thoughts. Feed your brain with good thoughts about yourself. You can do it.
I understand. It sucks. Life is hard. It really is. Life is supposed to be hard. It's never meant to be easy. I dont know what it is but we think that life is supposed to be rainbows and butterflies everyday. Nope. Life doesnt work that way. It's supposed to be ups and downs left and rights.
Be lighter on yourself today. Start trying to talk nicely to yourself like u would to a good friend. Self compassion heals.
Much love,
Sunni☀️🧜♀️💕
Thanks. Definitely are our own worst critics. I literally have to say I’m NOT a bad person over and over again to make my thoughts stop.
I understand. One thing that could help is meditation. Those thoughts that u r facing are fueled by emotions. If you calm your emotions you'll be able to calm your thoughts and mind. I know what you are talking about though. They are insecurities that keep a hold on us. It hapoens to the best of us especially under a lot of stress. The goal is to calm the mind. Just a few breaths can help too. I hope this helps.
Exercise helps too. Bc it realeses hormones to calm the mind. Yoga is great at clearing and calming too.
I and my son, more seriously, have felt that way. I would recommend you see your GP sooner rather than later!
Thanks. I talk to my therapist once a week but was thinking of messaging her for a quick session today. But I remembered she said she was going away/ so me already feeling like a damn burden- I don’t even want to text her
Well I did- and got an automatic reply out of office.
You're not alone I'm here for you. You're not horrible and you deserve happiness and everything you want in this life. I too feel like this sometimes, minus the bad mother part. When I do I smoke some callie weed and meditate or go for a hike. Sometimes all that helps is staying in bed for a few days. I don't hate you and I'm here to help you whenever you need, just message me. Sending you irie vibrations, one love.
Thank you. Weed definitely helps me too.
I wish I could stay in bed for a few days. I need a BREAKKKK. My husband works all day and can’t help with the kids and I am fed up with cooking and cleaning every other hour.
When he asked me last week how he can help and support me- I asked him to make me a simple meal- like a pb& j once in a while. Instead he offered to cook me a nice dinner. But did he do either?? No.
I cook, I clean, I do laundry, yard work, I take care of the kids, I pay the bills- no one does anything to take care of me.
My best friend- the person I call in these times , is sitting in a box downstairs on my mantel. Fucking ashes.
I'm sorry, you have to deal with that. Every girlfriend I ever had always had a scratch made meal everyday for dinner. I'd start preparing right after I got home from work and showered. Not one of them appreciated it though. So him working all day is no excuse. He chose to be married and he chose to have kids, it's his responsibility to provide and care for y'all now. I'm sorry your best friend is gone. But I'm here now, I'm willing to listen when you need to talk. Just remember you're not alone. And this too shall pass.
Oh man- when I was working full time and my husband stayed home with the kids- he would always have a nice meal made (he also worked as a chef at Ritz Carlton, Fairmont, The W. And local restaurants as well)
I loved it so much.
Nice I'd love to have someone cook for me once in a while.
Thoughts don't know the difference between truth and lies. If we tell ourselves something about ourselves for long enough, we start believing it. This is where CBT and DBT come in. Have you heard of these before?
Yeah I do dbt with my therapist.
Great👍 What do you think of it?
I personally prefer CBT because I need to see things written down. It sinks in more if it's written.
It does work sometimes. But I feel like when my mind is this consumed - I can’t get out of it.
Oh come on, stop it. Picture a big STOP sign in your head when you get all of these thoughts. Did something happen to trigger all of This? I get really down on myself too sometimes. Frustration is frustrating.
I haven’t tried that- picturing a stop sign- but I’ll give it a try.
Been battling these thoughts for a while, I guess today’s trigger was my husband gave me attitude when I mentioned that I spent the entire day cleaning yesterday and he spilled food all over the microwave and didn’t clean it up.
That would trigger me too!!!! If you make a mess, clean it up dude! Okay, I am well known on here for my belief in music therapy. Go to YouTube, look up a song by Jennifer Lopez called I Ain't Your Mama!!! If you feel ANY better after watching that, let me know!!! GRrrrrrr....
Seriously! And the worst part is I didn’t even blame him when I saw it was a message. I said
Hey babe, I don’t remember if this was me, but I do just wanna say that I cleaned the microwave yesterday and now there’s food spilled in it.
And he had the nerve to say I didn’t use the microwave. Ok ok- so I asked why he ate cold fried pork for lunch. He said it was that good that he didn’t need to heat it up.
This shit gets to me. Yes it’s something stupid. But it’s these small fights that escalate in my head and fucks me up.
Also, that song is funny.
Well at least now hopefully you're smiling a little and you're not all down on yourself. I guess J. Lo. gets really pissed off too!!!☺
Random but have you ever seen
Between two ferns?
I'm not sure what that means.
I just hope you're feeling better. I'm sure you're doing your best.
Thank you
I can relate. Sorry you feel this way. It is debilitating. I used to be in a leadership role and I used positive motivation for my associates and myself. I think it helped me a lot and helped them also. You are enough always.
Thank you. It is so debilitating.
I just got off the bathroom floor to go make my son a pb&j for lunch. Then it’s his nap time and I’m going to go cry again
You are not alone. You sound exactly like my daughter. She has the exact same thoughts and it's gotten much worse in the pandemic. Be kinder to yourself. Anxiety is part of who you are just like the color of your eyes. My daughter keeps saying no one understands. She's right. Her family, husband and three kids, are so frustrated with her. It's very hard work, dealing with anxiety and there is no magic pill. I suggest you give yourself time limits. Say you'll lie down for one half hour and then force yourself up. My daughter is ready to commit herself but she doesn't understand that she still has to do the work. My prayers are with you. You are not alone.
Thank you.
No. You are not stupid at all.
You sound like me I’ve had same thoughts and feelings.then I look at my girls playing and laughing and think I’m so lucky.i have more than some people have and this helps me realise I am a good person .and I’m sure you are too
Thank you for the reminder: I do.
I have two boys who love me with their whole heart 💜
First of all, even though you and I do not know each other, I do not believe all of this. I believe that all of these putdowns are real to you, because I am still struggling with such things myself. You can be a friend to yourself. The way I am dealing with my defeating and negative thoughts is by countering them with positives and good thoughts about who you really are. It takes an effort to begin doing this, because what you have been doing has become a habit, and habits are notoriously hard to break. Do try. And include me in your cheering section.
I’m so depressed I blew it with a good guy 
Dont feel good enough 
Not good enough - Self Worth
I’m not brave enough to say “me too”
How do you get to \"good enough\"?
