Need clarity

[Sky_clouds]

i have had a neglected childhood. my parents loved me I guess but I cannot say this for sure.

this has scarred my life.

later, a man claimed to love me, he would make sure he choose the right flavour of ice cream that I liked, he would gift me things that he said he choose investing a lot of time, it felt as if he cared for me. I never asked for gift in fact I find it difficult to accept gifts. He would always have a thought behind his gifts.

at the same time, (there were some things that happened on his end which caused me pain) he rejected my pain when I told him I was hurt, he blamed me that I simply didn't get over things, and remained stuck to it and caused problems. he would have a 'reason' for everything that had hurt me. he blamed me for not understanding the circumstances and reasons.

when did I judge the person wrong? when I felt he loved me or when in the paragraph above? was I projecting my past childhood experience and ruining everything for him and myself too?

I am unable to describe everything clearly right now, but with this that I could write please help me gain clarity.

Thanks

[Sky_clouds]

Because you are asking this question you may be answering your question what do you mean?

[Sky_clouds]

Ok thanks

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How can you have ruined everything for you and him? You say he rejected your pain when you were hurt, if he loved you why would he do that?

My best advice to you would be don't try and figure out who was to blame, just put yourself first and focus all your attention on some self comfort, look after you and give yourself plenty of time, the right kind of love will come your way once you begin to love yourself and forgive mistakes. Xx