Unrealistic expectation

Hi everyone , it is so frustrating to be what society expect you to be . Like if someone is not slim , tall , have silky and dense hair , is dark skin he or she is called ugly in my society . I do not understand who gave them the defination of beauty . Because every single human being is beautiful in their own way . And because of the narrow minds some people think that they are not good enough. Kids get bullied in school on the basis of their appearence , get depressed , try to change themselves . Ideas that society has made for beauty make it difficult for some people to even look in the mirror , make them hate themselves ,stop them from making friends. Even some parents expect things from their kids that can not be fulfilled . Like I have brown skin color and I am thin and because of it I used to get bullied in school, tuition and my building . And when I used to talk about this to my parents , they also used to tell that I am ugly. Because of all this I suffered depression. I used to think that I am not good enough to be even alive . I started thinking of killing myself. And tried to kill myself several times . But eventually I learned to except myself the way I am with the help of some amazing teachers in my tuition.

Just wanted to share my experience. Thank you for reading my post.

[bartimaeus_0]

The standard for being "non-ugly" should honestly be lowered to "basic healthiness" rather than all these pointless things that don't change the experience at all. I agree with your statement and hope you get better.

[Hidden in reply to bartimaeus_0]

Thanks

[Hidden]

So glad you got the help you needed from your teachers when you were in that dark place of depression. It’s true we must accept ourselves the way we are, looks included, and no one else can do that for you... but having supportive people helps.

I agree, every person is uniquely beautiful. ❤️

[Hidden]

Hi wonderingcloud! I am so proud of you for reaching above that! My mom has actually told me that I am ugly too, so I know where you are coming from. At my highschool, there are so many expectations that if you don't measure up to, you are automatically lesser than everyone else. IT'S SO RIDICULOUS! I'm still learning to be comfortable in my own skin, but I am growing. It's a scary world out there.