Anxiety

[Alicia5]

My husband was unfaithful to me and I got depressed and all of a sudden I started suffering from anxiety,I forgave him and moved on but anxiety keeps coming,kindly help

[HelpingElbow]

Hi Alicia

It's an indication that your anxiety is gradually growing its roots within your mind. Everyone on this platform will vouch for the fact that their anxiety started off merely and later ran on 5th gear.

Metaphorically speaking, you need to apply the brakes as soon as you can. If not, at least you must apply the hand brakes!

What I am implying is; either by yourself or with someone's support (e.g. a doctor) kill your anxiety at its bud. Now's the correct time to do it.

[Alicia5 in reply to HelpingElbow]

Thanks,I'll seek help

[nic013]

i’m sorry you are dealing with this struggle. i have dealt with infidelity in a past relationship and i still have anxiety about trust even though i am dating someone else now- because when a fundamental tenet of a relationship is shattered, it alters the way you think forever! so even though you have decided to forgive and move on, that doesn’t mean the issue is “settled” in your brain and in your defense mechanisms (anxiety is acting as a protective mechanism for you now).

forgiveness as an act is only one small piece of the puzzle. lots of communication is essential moving forward. i have had good luck with couples therapy as a place to have productive conversations.

i wish you the best and i hope that your husband is open to spending the necessary time rebuilding trust and communication; it will be a long process.

[Alicia5 in reply to nic013]

Thank you for encouraging me,I'll heal with time,🙏

[GymNeed]

Wow. Maybe you forgave him but you can't forget. You have to let yourself off the hook because maybe you are blaming yourself. It is definitely not your fault. Marriage counseling may help because you can find out why he really cheated and you will find out it has nothing to do with you! You know that but you need reassurance.

[marsdream]

I am sorry for what you are going through. Unfaithfulness is hard, because trust has been broken. You forgave which is what Jesus said to do "forgive others as I have forgiven you" Matthew 6:14-15; but your emotions are involved with trusting your spouse again. Find a counselor in your area that you can just sit and talk with. It just sounds like you need to work and process through some emotional pain that you still have. You are have a normal emotional response to a painful relationship.

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I agree with the others on counselling. I think that you should both go together. I have trust issues too.

[sunandbutterfly]

Sorry to hear of the anxiety and depression that you are feeling. What a painful time this must be for you. Even though you have forgiven him, know that it is okay to feel hurt. I am so glad that you are willing to seek some help. A licensed counselor should be able to help you sort through this.

Have you ever heard of Dealing with the Aftermath of an Affair by Barb Rosenburg or Unfaithful:Hope and Healing after Infidelity? Or are you familiar with Lisa Terkhurst? Perhaps some of their resources would be encouraging to you?

Don't forget to dwell on the truth of how precious you are and that you are made in God's image.