Incredibly Depressed and Hopeless

[dean509]

I am recently divorced from my wife but also recently out as gay. I had a relationship with another man after my divorce. When that relationship ended, I realized how incredibly lonely I am. I keep hoping to re-connect with that person because I think I wouldn't be so lonely. I am consumed with that relationship but I realize that I only want that relationship again because I am so lonely. I have no friends and have never been good at making friends. I can't sleep and I don't eat much anymore. I am on Wellbutrin 150. I think it probably helps some, but I still would describe myself as incredibly depressed. Anymore, I hate work but I also hate the thought of being alone at home. I feel as if there is no hope and that nothing will ever get better.

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Well new friend..u def wont be alone here.Everyone here r all pretty friendly.

[lofi_cat]

That sounds really really hard. You've lost a lot. But you sought help, and you came here to reach out and make connections with people... you're doing good, hang in there and things will get better.

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[Shnookie]

Hi dean. It’s Shnookie. Welcome 🙏 to

Our supportive group. This is is a good place to come to. U have gone thru a lot of things lately. Perhaps next time U see your

therapist talk to him or her about how U

R feeling. When U R at home try to

listen to music U enjoy 😉. Try to read things U enjoy or buy perhaps a crossword

book or some other type of object or reading Material that will help You

Stimulate your mind. Wishing U a

Pleasant weekend. Hugs 🤗 M

[Storm000]

I have to agree! I have no friends, no family. My phone never rings, no one ever knocks on my door, I feel like I just exist, not much life. I can not keep myself occupied, I sleep for days. It's just very wrong!

[Purrsona]

I know it must be incredibly hard right now, but it sounds like you've made a major step in being honest with yourself about yourself. Are there ways you can connect with the LGBTQ+ community in your area? Or even online? There are lots of helplines and communities, I could try to find some internet resources for you if you like...

[dean509 in reply to Purrsona]

Any and all help I can get is appreciated. I will try to look into some of your suggestions. At this point, I am so desperate for help that I am not thinking about all of the possible solutions. I came across this site by accident. Even the brief experience I have had using the site has been somewhat helpful.

[BaltimoreTeacher in reply to dean509]

I recently came out as well. I guess my frnds knew that and confirmed what they know. Alone and depressed. Not eating much lost weight and not sleeping good. I treat everyday as a path to recovery. I meditate for now as i lost interest in yoga ang jogging. Two activities I enjoyed before. My last relationship was like 15 years ago. Not looking anymore, if it comes then hood, if not, I kind of accepted it. My depression maybe because I am away from family and worried about them due to covid. My work is stressful. But hey, we are still here. Surviving and making everyday better for our wellbeing. Its hard just hang on. Like what others say this too shall pass. If you need to talk let me know, I need that actually.

[dean509 in reply to BaltimoreTeacher]

I’d enjoy talking with you. We are both experiencing similar issues. Like you, it would help me to talk about it.

[BaltimoreTeacher in reply to dean509]

Send me a chat. Love to hear from you

[Purrsona in reply to dean509]

I've never used this, but it seems like it could be good: 7cups.com/lgbtq-chat-room/

Here's a list of helplines: ostem.org/page/crisis-hotlines

And another one, some for queer issues, some for others pflag.org/hotlines

[Purrsona in reply to dean509]

You might also try local social media closed groups. My city has a "queer exchange" where LGBTQ+ people can chat, organize, sell things, ask for help, etc. (Although in this case, it's full of young people who can be a bit judgmental--but I live in Seattle, so the culture is probably very different elsewhere.)

[Snoopy54]

I feel hopeless .. I'm been in bed all day ..

[Cardinal2]

Welcome friend and know you are not alone. Joining is a great first step. I am sorry you are going through so much and I hope you can find some peace.

[dean509 in reply to Cardinal2]

Thank you for the kind words. Every little bit helps.