confidence

[lighttone]

I have alot of issues with socializing. I didn't even think I would be here today but some how......... I just though I would ask this... people always say confidence ... ive never had it even when I tried. What does it mean in your definition. I still dont get it.Im just curious from how many times ive been told that but then how many times im too shy...... I just wanna understand people in the same boat as me understanding of it.

[hypercat54]

The secret to socialising is to concentrate on the other person or people involved. Make it an enjoyable experience conversing with you and they will want to do it again. This takes your mind off yourself and your own feelings.

If you are in a group then even if you don't say anything make sure you follow the conversation and nod and smile in the right places. If you project awkwardness or don't follow the social rules then people will feel awkward around and will either ignore you or you will draw unwanted attention to yourself. Remember the more you practise the more confident you will become.

[lighttone in reply to hypercat54]

Im good at blending in but often times I still come off that im too shy or timid.... still thanks for the response.. anxiety is a crazy animal.!

[Operalady]

Hi my niece is very shy too! Have you been to a doctor a bout this?if its causing you a lot of loneliness and unhappiness I would see a doctor! Do not be afraid lots of people have this issue!