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Hello beautiful supportive people.

So please tell me how one manages to entertain when they are depressed. I find this so difficult.

The planning, shopping, cooking leaves me so exhausted.

How do you manage? What do you do to make things easy for yourself? ..or do you just not do?

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Operalady

Hi would it help to put your favorite music on to get you going? Fix your hair really cool and keep the food simple but yummy!

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Bettikins in reply to Operalady

Welcome to this forum!

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Operalady

Hi would it help to put you fV music on? Led Zeppelin helps me or Pavarotti! Food simple but yummy oh fix your hair really cool rock it

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Bettikins in reply to Operalady

Love the Led! Thanks for advice Operalady.

I think it's rather exhausting to cook and entertain and then clean up the mess even when I'm not depressed!!! I think it would be helpful if you had someone helping you and you didn't try to do it all yourself, like ask someone beforehand if they wouldn't mind helping you with the dishes and trash afterwards. Or else just limit the number of people to only 2. Keep it manageable. Make things that are simple to make and you pretty much know how to do, don't try some new recipe that's complex where you're not sure how it will turn out. Good luck!!!

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Thanks, Googoodollsfan. Makes sense. Entertaining is exhausting enough without anything else being added in. Would you have a favorite go to that you like?

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I'm just happy to have some pizza, you could just buy a frozen pizza and heat that in the oven on a cookie sheet, maybe just make a salad to go with it and have ice cream for dessert. And use paper plates and cups and just make sure you take out the trash. That's just me though. Or you could get a frozen lasagna and heat that in the oven too, I mean the main thing is for people to enjoy each other's company.

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Junella in reply to

The best reply. I agree.

hey the fact that you entertain is amazing. There's a great place where you can order for parties etc...that's the way I'd go.

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Scrabble65

Do you mean entertain yourself? I certainly wouldn't be entertaining for others right now and especially when depressed. I listen to old music and lip sync in the mirror it brings me back to carefree times when I was younger.

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Operalady in reply to Scrabble65

I like the music yes powerful music helps move the depression. It intermingles with it and can push it out replacing it with its power! That’s what Opera does for me! Opera music is about powerful feelings! I feel normal in its element. I can use all the depression , loneliness , anger, all that hightend pain,confusion , rage and the music transforms it into beauty. That’s it! The depression/ anxiety can be transformed. In an element of your choosing! For me it’s the Voice! Find your s

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Bettikins

I meant entertain others.

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X01WOOG

I don't know where you live, but we are not supposed to be entertaining because of the Virus. I have told everyone not to come in because you never know who is a carrier. Perhaps I am too cautious but I am among the elderly who is supposed to be at risk. Perhaps not seeing anyone is what is making me depressed. Oh, no, I think having company is great for me because I love people and love blabbing to someone. I love hearing their story, too. If you knew mine, &#!+, you would be depressed, too.

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Operalady in reply to X01WOOG

Hello I would love to hear your story! I too have battled most of my life with extreme emotional challenges!! Tell you story, your hopes, dreams and trials! I am here to truly listen for this has giving me strength to know I am not alone and I am not crazy !

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Bettikins

You are right..we still have to be so careful.

We all have interesting stories/history and there is nothing better than getting together with friends and sharing.

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newbie56

Well, I get nervous about entertaining even my own adult children!

I always feel their wives are better cooks...better at everything. But

it always works out cuz they love me.

I'm 80 yrs old but have always lacked confidence.

Take my advice, it's all about love. It never fails ! And when this crazy

social distancing is over, bask in the warmth of love with true friends.

Sip coffee or tea with them. Store bought cookies? Now we're talkin'.

Sure! Enjoy a simple gathering. Trust me.

Agape

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Bettikins

Hi there Newbie56....thanks for your kind words.

Bless you for responding to my query.

Coffee and cookies sounds good.

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newbie56

Any kind of cookies, Bettikins ...

oatmeal, molassas, peanut butter or even Oreos.

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Junella

Take a day of relaxation the day before or that morning, tub bath, deep breathing, 8 hours of sleep, No sugar or overeating, go to bed with pleasant reading and/or music.

Cooking the entree the day before works for me and then relaxing in the morning. Most of all make it simple like one entree you trust, a salad, a baked potato, one or two vegetables from frozen packs. Buy a special desert.

You could also get help or have it catered.

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Bettikins in reply to Junella

Thanks Junella for your response. I do like your suggestions.

The simpler the better!

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