Feeling stuck

[Glitter28]

Today has been complete hell!! I feel stuck in a terrible marriage where my step kids run the show and I quit work 17 months ago to stay home with our daughter and have to depend on my husband who recently lost his job!!!! Today his 5 year old slapped our 17 month old in the face because she had his phone and his sister who is 9 came in and to tell what he had done caused a huge argument between me and my husband because when she told on him I busted his ass. I knew he had done it cause I’ve seen him push her before and lie about it multiple times and his daughter has never lied to me out of the 4 years I’ve known her. So basically he just completely ignored me and his daughter and then his son finally told him the truth and then my husband gave him a spanking for lying and causing a huge argument that could have been avoided but when my husband apologized his excuse was, “ well I took up for him cause of the way my dad did me when I was little.” Then on another note I mentioned that there are plenty of jobs in the state where me and my husband live and he said “ and leave my kids and see them just on the weekends.” He will not come home and his kids live 6 hours from where we are from. So he chose to stay here than to be there for me and my daughter as well! I’m not a jealous person but we are apart of his life also. His kids are important also I’m not saying they aren’t but he does not know a balanced life and I just quit arguing with him and even talking to him because if I bring anything up it turns into an argument and he never compromises and thinks I’m such a shitty person and that I’m the only one who needs to change things in our marriage. I’ve checked out and now looking on how me and my daughter can get out of this marriage that is hell. He can stay 6 hours where he chooses to be and let me and our daughter have our own life because he doesn’t give us any of his time anyways. Sorry for the long post I had to get this off of me! I don’t have anyone to talk to about it and there is no point in discussing this with my oh so arrogant husband!

[Sunflowerxxxxxx]

Hi sorry you are going through a bad time, of course we are only hearing one side of the story here your husband is sure to be very unhappy as well especially with losing his job, please dont think i am undermining what you are going through because i am definately not simply stating fact because theres sure to be unhappiness on both sides here and then both blaming one another thats easier to see from an outside point if view and obviously only the both of you really know what is what. I would suggest that you sit down and talk thats both of you in turn talking and listening to the other, if there really is no way forward then you should discuss parting for your own sakes and those of the children involved and hopefully that could be done amicably. If it really is impossible to talk then you have to make your decision yourself to either carry on and accept things as they are which is no good for anyone or make plans to leave, things coming to ahead may jump start him into wanting to talk and sort things you never know... whatever happens i wish you luck😊

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Ah, man that does sound terrible. I can't really give any good advice on this topic but I truly wish you the best of luck. Times like these I think we just gotta remember what brought us here in the first place, and why we are where we are. You obviously care for them and I'm sorry you've had to hit such a rough spot. However I'm sure there will be something positive just waiting for you somewhere on the horizon. Keep your chin up and I'm positive that you're strong and will get through this. Best wishes!