Cant see how I will get thought this, 59 now its not going to change now, but it did once.

[Waynesplash]

I dont know what to say, just hope your so much your all diffrent to me. I was shy, life was so lonely for me, yes I had lots of friends and family, love my job and training, but I never had a girlfriend until 53, it was hell before, just 4 one night stands, I am not a bad looking guy, its just being shy is hard.

Then a friend I had a crush on from about 16, came into my life for two years, we got on like two teenagers in love, spoilt her rotten, 5 holidays, God she had everything, then without a row, she just left. its coming up 5 years ago, and this morning did not get up until 12 again, as I dont want to face the day without her. i feel lonely, so fed up, anxiety, and just fell like doing nothing, I miss her so much still, time does not heal, it makes it worst. And she will not even talk to me or say hi, nothing at all from her for 5 years, and I still feel so bad. the only way out is to end it, as I put up with it for 53 years, now after having all the sex I wanted with the girl of my dreams, and more than that, being with a girl, walking, holding hands and teasing her.

I now feel 100 times worst than before, I miss her still so much, I just feel so ill all the time and want to cry, and feel frighted. on two lots of tablets twice a day. HOW DO YOU MEET SOMEONE, I ONLY WANT HER BACK, BUT I KNOW I HAVE TO TRY SOMEONE ELSE. On Tinder and P of F, but not much luck, I "NEED" someone in my life to help me and be with, I felt she was part of me, now part of me as gone, and I dont want to do life like this, the only way out is to end it, but I dont want that, I cant do that. BILLIONS on this World, but I cant even find one girl to talk to ??? Why am I writing this, its not going to get me anywhere.

Wayne

[blackcat64013]

Hi Wayne,

You have got yourself a reply from Australia.

I am your age and single. Having a friend with benefits is certainly great! Finishing relationships suddenly is the pits. ☹ Some relationships have expiry dates known only to one person. If this happened, then you will possibly never know the reason. Definitely unfair for sure.

Giving yourself time grieve the loss is important. Only you will know how and when to move on.

All the best 🐨

[Hidden]

Hey, come on man get a grip. It's good that you let those feelings out. I totally understand where you're coming from, part of it I believe is the whole mid life crisis thing. You need to be a friend to yourself. No one else can complete you, you complete you. And you are not hopeless. Try to learn from failed relationships. You probably have some idea of why she left. How can you change what you're doing and saying so someone would want to commit to you??? And let this woman know how special she is to you.

[utep99]

Got to be a little brutal with the truth here but it may help. You placed your entire life around one person. What you have learned is when that is gone you tend to try to still find the same somewhere else. I went through this also. I became so desperate out of brutal need in my life I asked God to bring me someone. 2 weeks later I meet a girl we were engaged after two more weeks. We married 60 days later. We have now been married 32 years and my wife is a great part of my life. I accepted God asked for forgiveness accepted his son as my Savior and bam! I meant a girl who to this day I feel I do not deserve. I do not know how long before God answers what you want. Keep your eyes on him. Get off the dating sites they and not a great way to find the love of your life. Get out no matter how you feel. Try Church, Movies or anywhere you go what you like to do. It will come I will pray for you.

[Hidden]

My heart goes out to you...finding love after spending so many years without only to loose it again is devastating....but you can't beat yourself up about this. Be kinder to yourself and work on you... xxx