Suffered from anxiety all of my life
I am 43 yrs old male at present struggling hard to fulfil day today activities
Lives with five children and wife
My GP has prescribed sertraline tablets but it makes me more anxious by just reading about the side effects
Life is so miserable !
I am looking for a way to get in touch with
Clinical psychologist
My GP couldn’t able to refer me without trying medication first
Any suggestion
Thank you
Hi josh and Welcome to the group. Hope you will find support here.
Well, that's a tricky one - GP won't refer you to a Clinical Psychologist till you try the meds first .
How long is the waiting list time for an appointment?
Could you phone your GP and talk through your fears about the side effects?
Are you able to talk to your wife? Is she understanding?
Have you heard of 'SHOUT' ( if in UK)
Thank you for your reply
I have a strong believe that I should be able to come out of this situation with out medication and believe that is the right way to go ahead
Also I am not sure if my GP had assessed my psychological state appropriately as it was a phone consultation due Covina 19 restriction currently , I am on second week of sick leave from work and due to returned to work end of this week
I work as a nurse in a dementia nursing home and responsible for 30 residents and to supervise up to 10 staff in a twelve hour shift in uk.
It is very mentally and physically straining work on top of my anxiety it is getting unrealistic to cope but pushing my best to avoid losing my career
As there is five children depends on my income , my wife is very supportive but
She has no ideas what I am going through
And Forcing me to take tablets ,
I have also lost my3 yr olds cute boy in 2017.
I will look in to the Shout
Thank you again for listening
Hi
U seem to have a lot on and I read about u losing ur little boy it’s a awful situation sometimes u have to accept and b kind to urself ur not at fault for feeling how u do it’s not easy living ur life but there is light at the end of the tunnel
Sending u lots of strength n a virtual hug
Here to listen, josh, whenever you need to talk. Think I must have been asleep when you replied though, just seen this now.
I am so sorry to hear of the tragic loss of your Precious son. You and your family have been through such a traumatic time, I can't begin to imagine the depth of your grief and pain. Losing a child in miscarriage took me many years . . .
Any time you want to talk about your cute boy - I'm here.
I agree with you about coming through this without medication. What you need is time and space to grieve; complete physical rest; lots of your favourite healthy foods and a good break from the job.
And when physically & mentally rested and recovered - some quality time with your family.
I, personally, don't agree with the 12 hour shifts. Though any nurses I've asked (in hospitals) say they prefer them and like the extra days off. I don't think they are healthy, and found the old three shifts stressful enough. (I worked in an EMI Unit.)
You have had so much to deal with personally, are working very long shifts in a demanding, stress- exuding job and on top of all this had to deal with the last three months or so of the Covid-19 chaos.
I think you have done tremendously well. You deserve a medal (not medication!) It's a miracle you've coped this long.
Do you think 2 weeks is enough time off?
How are you planning to spend your last 5 or so days at home (if you do return as expected)?
Sometimes it's ok to do nothing and get complete rest, even if just for two days.
When so exhausted (possibly suffering from sleep deprivation) day- to - day tasks will be a struggle or even impossible. So I wouldn't be too concerned - just rest and sleep for two days. Drink lots of water and eat well.
Hope you get good weather too so that you can plan to have some fun times with the family before you go back to work - it's ok to have fun.
x
Thank you for accepting me,
I have taken similar strategy
But most days my head didn’t allow me
To do what I want ,as my head seems full of fog and not able to think clearly and not able to concentrate ,and felt physically exhausted .
Last two days I feel much clarity in my head ,that’s how I found out of this page .
but I pushed myself to go out for walk few days every week AND feel physically energetic now ,due to being born and brought up in a catholic family I am also trying to reconnect with God through prayers ,
I have been struggling with anxiety
From my childhood but never recognised I seen myself as a strong
Person and had big dream,
But since having marriage life and after having my 3rd child in 2010 life get more difficult to manage especially with the type of job,
Unfortunately as you said Covid didn’t help me , we were not given enough PPE infact my manager shouted at me for wearing mask and forced me to take it off while I was administering medication , but now the same manger asking us to wear mask all the time
I tried my best to not challenge her at that time. And tried to forgive her for her lack of knowledge .
On top of that I have another emotional hardle to cope as my mother back home dignosed with
Myeloma and suffering from pain everyday , she had broke her arm and hip she is only 68 yrs now require full support to get up from bed and not able to walk , I can see she is dying day by day.
I am not able to travel to see her due to travel restriction.
Sorry to tell you all of this , I have no one else to talk all of this.
Thank you for listening , I will be fine
I will fight against the fear and I will keep living as happy I can .
Please do not apologise for telling me anything. Here and willing to listen.
Sometimes we need to talk things through, share, off load.
When we're carrying so much & then become exhausted too , I think we're in danger of being unable to function / carry on - and just come to a halt and confusion.
I'm sorry to hear of your news of your Mother's diagnosis and her pain. She is so young too. Her injuries must be difficult to cope with.
It must be so hard, not being able to visit her. Are you able to speak over the phone? Is there someone with her who can help her with Skype or FaceTime? I must say I'm not sure how to do those.
I think you took the right attitude over the manager & PPE. She was so wrong and should apologise but if you made an issue of if then it would just consume time and energy. Maybe best forgotten.
I am a Christian and believe in the power of Prayer too, and in listening to and seeking to obey God. Wouldn't be here today without Him. He will help you walk through the fear, you will come through all this.
Thank you
You are amazing
God lives through people like you
My prayers
If you have the resources, you can try online counseling. It's at least a starting point, to begin talking to a professional. It might make you feel a little better to feel you are more in control of your course of treatment and not just waiting on your GP to be able to help. Red tape...it's ridiculous! I feel you on the anxiety that comes with taking meds. My GP prescribed Prozac. I have yet to take a single pill. I'm going to therapy first. I have my first session tomorrow.
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