I’m having anxiety just typing this post. I feel like the new kid at school. I figured I should put myself out there on this app in hopes to meet others who struggle with similar battles within themselves. It’s hard to live like this, especially with no friends. But does anyone know how to find others in your area?
Thanks In advance ?
Hope everyone is staying safe✌🏼
Hi! Welcome! We have open ears, typing fingers, and compassion to share.
I remember my first post.... the one here and on other sites in the past. There’s such a heavy weight on what to say, how to say it, and what other people will think or say. There’s a lot of anticipation and stress just hitting the post button. I find that when I put the focus on myself and what can go wrong instead of on others and how I can help - I just have an overall worse time.
All of that to say:
Congrats on your post!! It took something just to reach out for what you need. I hope you find what you’re searching for and that it gives you peace. (Reminds me of the verse: Numbers 6:24-26)
I don’t know have an answer to your question about locals! Hopefully someone else can help. Are you wanting like a support group near you? Or ways to find others to build friendships?
I hope you’re staying safe and taking care of yourself too!
💕💕💕
Thank you for just responding to my post. I know it’s silly to care what everyone thinks, but for some reason I do and always have. I sat here, waiting for someone to say something. How pathetic am I?
Thank you for the kind words. I hope you’re staying safe and healthy as well 🙏🏼💕
Hey girl. You’re welcome! It isn’t silly to care about what everyone thinks... we find ourselves searching for approval from others when we haven’t received it. It’s a misalignment of social priorities. Honestly, it’s exhausting.
But, we are made to be with other people. It’s wonderful that you reached out and are asking for what you need.
Please be kind to yourself. We can’t change how our childhood was or what we did to survive. Now, we can grow in the direction we want like flowers moving to face the sun.
Life is constant growth. We’re all more as we age. I hope your realizations have been an opportunity for you to build yourself up, to explore, and encourage who you are / what you like. I know it’s been difficult for me to do that. I couldn’t have by myself.
Anyways, happy Friday! “This is what the Lord says—he who made you, who formed you in the womb, and who will help you: Do not be afraid...” Isaiah 44:2
Thank you very much for that. Your message couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been having a really rough couple of weeks and I really needed some encouragement!! Thank you very much ✌🏼💛 hope you and your family are healthy .
Hi Brooke_L. Don’t know much about finding people in the area but the people here are super friendly, supportive and understanding. Welcome!
Yes exactly !!! It sucks 
Im a grandma so can only relate “ back in my day”. My dad changed jobs alot so I was the new kid at school every 2-3 years. Wasnt too bad til high school, 10 th grade, new kid plus I am a bit shy which didnt help. Sadly, too many times people like us have to make the first step, reach out. Find what you love and what you are good at and pursue it. Join a club or group at school.
Later years after graduation, I was told by classmates that they thought I was “ stuck up” or thought I was better than the others when in reality I was shy, a little withdrawn and scared. Life is hard, but it is harder at your age. The saying “ you be you” is so true
Thank you for reaching out!! 💛
Are you safe ??
We are all suffers here how can we help you ? It is important we respect ourselves and this can be a problem when it comes down to Mental Health Issues. People will do us down if they feel we cannot stand up for ourselves. You are who you are and sometimes this can be a real problem when we mix with others.
Do you have any Mental Health Day centres in your area where you can meet similar people with the same needs, fears and expectation in life. The problem is these centres will be possibly closed at this time, however that in the future could be one outlook you could attend. Talk to your GP the Surgery may have a list of places to go where you will feel at peace with others who have similar concerns and expectations
However we are here for a chat, with like minded kind people
BOB
thank you for the sincere advice!! I’m a 27 year old mother of one and it’s hard to “find myself” at this stage in my life. Ive always tried to fit in, so pretending to be someone I wasn’t really made me lose myself completely. Now I’m just lost.
Brooke
Having children is hard work however you still may need to find time for yourself. Can you arrange to possibly have time out with your Partner, could you arrange a Baby Sitter or similar.
The saying know yourself is important, pretending what you are not can confuse even ourselves. Generally I would possibly advise joining Woman Groups were you can talk to like minded people, this will help you relate to yourself and others. Have words with CAB they may have some addresses of groups that may be able to help find one,
Mixing with like people will help you relate and understand who you are and what you wish out of your life expectations. It is important you have time to relate and understand your needs
BOB
Thanks Bob, for taking the time to share some advice. It’s all very much appreciated. But what is CAB?
CAB Brooke in the UK is Citizens Advice Bureau
If you live in the USA do you have anything like that where you are.
Your Doctors Office may be able to help you find Organisations to help.
We can also go into a Town Information Office, sometimes located in a Library.
You could also visit your local Council/State Office, they may help to give information
BOB
Thank you so much !!
Welcome and just making your first post is a big step. I wish you peace in your journey of trying to overcome anxiety.
I definitely know how that feels. Being the new kid used to make my social anxiety go through the roof. I salute your bravery. Welcome to the club🙂
My kid makes my anxiety worse
Realizing your kid inherited depression/anxiety...yikes!
Passed on my anxiety/depression genes to my kids
Can’t Stand My Kids
My kids will be as miserable as me
