Body Image

[raesong1017]

For awhile now, I will look in the mirror and hate the person I see: cellulite, no thigh gap, curves etc. I've struggled with my body for some time and I just don't know what to do. I've tried dieting, exercising and I'm not satisfied. I try to love my body but I compare myself to other girls, which I know I shouldn't do but I can't help it. It affects my personal life more than it should. I don't go swimming because I refuse to have people see me in a swim suit, it affects what clothes I buy and wear. I have an entire closet of clothes and I swear I wear the same 10 outfits. I don't know what to do!

[HopeforJustice]

First, be thankful for the good things in your life while so many others are experiencing tremendous loss. Your issue sounds as if you are younger, so I am going to give you support as if I were giving advice to my younger self when I was your age. Ask yourself, what is most important in life? What type of person do you want to become? I had an eating disorder when I was in my 20's, many years ago. When I think about why I cared about my body so much, it was because I wanted to be attractive to others. People in magazines and on TV don't really look like that in real life. And when you compare yourself to others you are not showing self-confidence. Confidence is sexy. Did you ever see that funny move with Amy Schumer where she was dancing on a stripper pole? That is a great example of confidence. Stop dieting and start living. Start living the life as if you already had the legs you wanted. I transformed myself into what I wanted to be by believing I was already there and eventually I started losing weight. Don't diet, simply eat like a healthy person. Buy some tap dancing shoes and learn how to tap dance online. It's fun and great exercise. Change the negative channel in your head. Tell yourself three things everyday that you love about yourself. I love my hair, teeth and voice. It's your turn...

[hypercat54]

What attracts other people to you has nothing to do with your appearance. As long as you obey the social hygiene rules and look clean and presentable that is.

Ask yourself what attracts you to people, is it their appearance or their character and you will have your answer.